Monday, December 21, 2009

Mental Detox

This same time last year I wrote a series on Twitter called Mental Detox. The purpose was for all of us to declutter our minds from all the toxic thoughts and beliefs that tend to fill it and start the new year with a fresh slate. As 2010 comes up next week, I am reposting that series here, for the same reasons.

1. Unforgiveness or holding a grudge is like drinking a bottle of poison and waiting for the other person to die.

2. For planners: no one has the cure for AIDS in their timelines, so stop stressing over "secrets". YOU are your trade secret.

3. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt

4. Unsubscribe from any blogs that consistently make you upset or uncomfortable. No rule that says you have to read them.

5. Go through your own twitter or blog history and count how many are complaints. Set a goal to cut that number at least in half for this year.

6. A gratitude journal does wonders, I can't stress this enough. is a great iPhone app.

7. Don't believe all the hype or read your own headlines. Wedding industry "fame" should always be taken with a grain of salt.

8. You can't fully control life, even with positive thinking. Other people’s poor choices will still affect you. Respond; don't react.

9. "The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good." - Ann Landers.

10. There is no shortage of talent in the wedding industry. Choose to work with vendors you like and who won't drag everyone down.

11. The world is a bakery producing fresh opportunities every day, not a fixed pie where you need to fight for the last crumb.

12. If your ideas aren't being copied, they probably aren't that good. Protect them legally, but prepare to let some things go.

13. Go on record as the first to have the idea and/or style. You can't be a trendsetter if you don't allow your idea to become a trend.

14. If you work from home, make it a point to have lunch at least once a week with a friend or colleague. It will do wonders for your outlook.

15. Perfect doesn't exist, so let go of the extra stress. Sometimes you just have to launch an idea and refine it as you go along.

16. Some people who have wronged you will never apologize. Let it go. You can't be their conscience/Jiminy Cricket/Holy Spirit.

17. Let's face it: we all have issues; some that we don't even know exist. Everyone should see a counselor. Pride kills.

18. True humility doesn't hide its gifts. Keep your ego in check, but don't pretend to not be good at something you're good at.

19. "There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you." – Marianne Williamson

20. Everyone's entitled to their own opinion. You can't please everybody and you certainly don't have to listen to everybody.

What piece of mental detox advice would you add to this list?


Alexandra Jusino said...

I would add "Don't forget to take a deep breath"

The Broke-Ass Bride said...

I love this post - it really gets down to the basics. We used that Marianne Williamson poem in our wedding ceremony, I love the message of that whole piece so much. We all need reminders to let our light shine, thanks!

Emily said...

Especially love #4 and #15. Tried shooting something completely new this week for Once Wed and it was a total disaster. I definitely see a lot of refining in my future:)

From Now Til I Do said...

Really great post that makes you think about life and what really is important.

I really like #6. I did something similar this year, where I wrote down all the things that God has done for me this year. Sometimes, especially when things are bad, you forget the good times and why you should be thankful, so it serves as a reminder, an encouragement.

#8 is also something that I have been reminded of this year. I can't change situations but I can change how I deal with them.

Thank you for a really inspiring post Liene.

MaunderingMe said...

This list is so relevant to so many lives! I was going to list all the ones I especially agree with/can relate to.. then realized there were way too many! (okay...#1, 8, 15- 20!) xo

Bernadette Smith said...

I have a list called "Lessons I've Learned but Keep Forgetting" that has some similar themes. One of my favorites is: Attitude is everything - you have a choice on how to respond to stressful situations. (Reminds me to gather perspective before I act.)

Dana said...

Thank Liene--I really appreciate these types of posts!

Tracey said...


I love this series & so many great ideas and quotes that I'm copying them into my "notes" for phone viewing.
Also downloaded the "happy tapper" apps to my Touch. Good to have the "attitude of gratitude" and exercise visualizing what I want to make happen for myself.

Happy Holiday friend:) Celebrate them with Love, Life & Style. Can't wait to see you again in NOLA at TSE2010.

Shang said...

I've been following your blog for a while and this is one of my favorite posts and I've been sharing it with everyone!

Megan Clouse said...

I LOVE this post and I already feel uplifted and refreshed. Thanks!

Elisheva said...

Great post, Liene! I would add that every time you say yes to something you are also saying no to something else. Since we all have limited time money, etc...think carefully about your yes's and don't feel bad when turning something down. We can't all do or have everything we want all at once.

Happy New Year!

Cloud9_Raquel said...

Such a great reminder for all of us - thanks Liene!