At the beginning of my career, I worked at a non-profit. Partway through my stint there, my boss had a nervous breakdown and took a sudden leave of absence. If you've had any experience working with a non-profit, then you know that the tyranny of the urgent reigns supreme. Cash-strapped and with insufficient time to hire someone new before the busy season began, the board of directors voted to promote me to her position. So, there I was, suddenly the interim director of a busy department in an international NGO, overseeing about 180 employees and volunteers across five continents. I was 19 years old.
At the time, I had never considered myself a leader or even entertained the idea that I had the capacity to be. However, other people more than twice my age had decided to put me in that position regardless of my opinions of myself. At that point, I decided to dive headfirst into the subject of leadership to learn all I could about it. It is a subject that has held my attention since.
What makes a leader? Is it what they accomplish in their roles? Is it who chooses to follow them? Is it how they define their vision? Is it relative to age? Does it mean staying politically correct? Speaking their mind? A tightrope balance somewhere in between? Are leaders born or are leaders made? Moreover, is it something they can choose to be or something that other people have to choose for them?
Years ago, while studying this topic, I came across a book called Becoming A Woman of Influence: Making a Lasting Impact on Others. I honestly don't remember much about this book except for one story that has stuck with me through the years: in one chapter, the author discusses her intense jealousy over another writer who happens to be much younger and more successful than she is. The two writers end up at an event together and the younger one thanks the older writer for having such a huge influence on her success. It turns out that the older author had taught the writing classes the younger author had taken in college. She attributed much of her career to what she had learned in those classes. The older author was stunned. She was nursing jealousy and animosity over someone who had learned from and succeeded because of HER.
That little anecdote taught me this: a true leader has done their job when the people they are leading or teaching can go on to do bigger and better things as a result. Your interns and associates should be able to go on and achieve greater success as a result of learning from you. Being stingy with your knowledge won't help anyone in the long-run, including yourself. What kind of legacy are you leaving?
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Splendid Communications subscribes to the view that the world is a bakery that produces fresh opportunities each day and not a fixed pie where each person has to fight for the last crumb. The purpose of our blog is to encourage you to Think Splendid; both in business and in life.
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Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Thoughts on Leadership
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Great thoughts. Leadership is like parenting, you should be equipping people to function without you by the time you're done.
What a great story. It is so true, you never know the people you inspire and you need to be willing to 'share the love'.
I would always take it as a compliment that somebody would want to follow in your footsteps.
Another great, thought provoking post!
Hi Liene, Just dropping by in between all the holiday chaos to see what's cooking. As always, it's something great!
Hey Liene,
I love your thoughts on leadership, I have always believed that a leader should be more than willing and ready to serve. A person who is successful and shareso his or her incite in to what makes a success serves his or her followers with a dose of inspiration & education. As you mentioned the follower can take what they've learned and move on to make a mark on the people that will one day follow them as they lead. Thanks for sharing this note on leaders!
Hi Liene,
I so agree! I've had interns who have gone on to do great things, and I love that I've had something to do with that. On the other hand, I've also had negative experiences, and those are sometimes harder to swallow. Two owners of businesses in my field (locally) spent a lot of time with me when they were just 'budding' and with one in particular I spent a lot of time helping, from how to charge, where to source, what else to offer to clients, how to market, etc. I knew they would end up as a competitor, but I also want the field (floral/event design) to be a good one where people charge accurately, etc. I also just love what I do, and love sharing that knowledge, I feel we should all support each other! What frustrates me is when that ends up being such a disadvantage to MY business: despite all the free advice, encouragement and mentoring I gave, this company's owner used photos from one of my event's as her own event though I specifically asked not to, and used them on her website, her portfolio's etc. The client saw, and got very upset, and I was upset as well, more so by the fact that I felt used. The pictures on the website came down several requests later, but are still used on her portfolio, which is sad considering her own work really is very beautiful, she does not need to use my designs. I feel sad that I not only mentored her, but for a long time also sent her referrals, only to now feel a slightly sad when I see her work - it could have been a great win win for each of us to send referrals back and forth, give each other design tips,etc.
SO, my question to YOU is this: how do you balance the desire to teach/mentor (which I LOVE to do) with the risk it may bring to your company?
Thanks for the book quote, I just got a Kindle for Christmas and just added my first book to my wish list!
Leona
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