Friday, February 27, 2009

Meet the Planners :: Emily Edwards

wedding planner

Name: Emily Edwards

Location: Peoria, Arizona

Company Name: Your Heart’s Desire Wedding Consulting

Number of Years in Business: 7

Website: yhdweddings.com

Blog: yhdweddings.blogspot.com

How did you get started in wedding planning? 
Many of my family and friends were encouraging me and telling me it was something I would be really good at. I took note of their comments and agreed that it was something I would really enjoy. I thought to myself, “One day I would look into starting my own business.” Then about 6 months later, I realized there is no such thing as “one day” and I decided right then and there to start my business.

I spent a ton of time researching, networking, reading and gaining every bit of knowledge I could to create value in the service I wanted to provide. It was incredibly important to me, not to hang up a sign and call myself a wedding planner until I had done what was necessary to be sure I was offering a quality service to my clients. I knew in my heart that this was not a hobby and that I was very serious, but I wanted everyone I worked with to be sure of that fact as well.

If you had to start over what one thing would you do differently? 
I would have created a professional website from the beginning. When I got started in 2001, having a website did not carry the same emphasis or importance as it does now. I had a very basic “free” site at the time and when I finally got my own URL and a professional site up in early 2005, I noticed a dramatic increase in exposure and business. Now, I wouldn’t even dream of starting a business without a website!

What's your favorite item in your emergency kit?
This may seem cliché, but I love my various sized safety pins. I keep those little guys on me at all times. I have never been a part of a wedding where I haven’t had to use one. They are invaluable.

What is the best piece of business advice you've ever received? 
Not to underestimate myself and my talent. I have found incredible success in my career by being the main influence on whether a wedding day turns out exactly the way my clients imagined it. But at the same time, I work very hard at being invisible and non-obtrusive. After all, it is not about me, but about the client. Whether or not I get “the credit” for the success is really not important to me – just that the day went according to how I planned it. So, at times in donning an air of humility, it leads to me secretly underestimating myself. But recently I read a quote that said, “Humility does not hide its gifts.” Such a simple statement, but it really made an impact on me. (Thanks, Liene!)

Which two people (past or present) would you have as guests at a dinner party and why? 
Jesus, because I have so much I want to ask Him, and my Grandmother, because I miss her more than anything and would love to tell her all about her great-granddaughter that she was two months shy of meeting.

What are your three favorite blogs besides thesmartplanner.com
Melissa Jill Photography Blog, The LPM Blog, and c jane

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Graphic Design Promotion for Small Business Owners

sean low business consultantOne of the best ways to increase your productivity is to let go of certain tasks so that you can focus more on the work that generates income for you.

An area that I find many wedding planners try to take on themselves, but that is better left to a professional, is graphic design.  Whether you need an ad created for a magazine or blog, some new business cards or brochures, or a logo, these are all tasks that you do not have to do yourself.  Many planners, in an effort to save money, believe that because they own photoshop or another design program, they are graphic designers.  This is not the case.  Plus, most often when wedding planners attempt to do their own design work, the text ends up pixely and the finished product delivers a homespun message instead of a professional one.

Believe it or not, there are rules for graphic design.  Logos have certain criteria and aren't just a pretty script with some swirls added, and specific font guidelines are used for design text not because designers are boring and afraid of change, but because the fonts trigger certain responses in people as they read (for example, did you know that non-profit organizations tend to use serif fonts because it allows the eye to read more quickly and increases the urgency of the call to action for the donor, thereby resulting in more donations to the organization?). While you may not be adding swirls to your name or sending out fundraising letters, hiring a professional saves you time, energy and money in the long run.

To help you out, Kelly Ashworth, a professional graphic designer (as in, she has actual design experience and education and doesn't just play around on Photoshop) and one of our featured guest experts here on The Smart Planner, is currently running a promotion for small business owners.  Right now, if you purchase one of her business design services (logo, identity, ad creation, etc), she will give you 1000 full color business cards totally gratis.

You can find out more information on Kelly's blog. This promo ends at the end of February, which is this Saturday, so be sure to snap to it!



PS - I do not receive any incentive for sharing about Kelly's promotion. I just think her work is the bee's knees and she is one of the best in the industry.  If you want to be the best, then work with the best. Hire her already!  You can follow Kelly on Twitter here.

Monday, February 23, 2009

Defining Who You Are

In business, it's important to know who you are.  I don't mean in the sense that you know what the core of your business is about, though that is fundamental and cannot be overlooked.  I mean that you know who you are as a person. 

I often ask people how they define themselves and the answers tend to invariably be the same: I'm a wedding planner.  No, that's your career.  Who are YOU?  I'm a mom, wife, daughter, sister.  No, that's your role in relation to your family.  Who are YOU?

My point is that we are multi-faceted people.  No one word can describe fully who we are, but I find that the vocabulary that most accurately defines a person has more to do with character than with the role they play or the hat they wear at any given hour. 

Here are some words that describe who I am at my core: I am loving, kind, generous and actively grateful.  So far, so good.  But let's face it: I am not that way all the time and to claim that I am would be a flat out lie.  To be more accurate, I would have to add that I constantly have to keep my selfishness in check, that I have a short fuse when I am tired and/or stressed out, and that I am particularly unsympathetic and impatient with what I perceive to be ego or ignorance in others.  Yes, who I am is a multi-faceted work in progress.

Hats and roles (mom, wife, wedding planner, entrepreneur, friend) can and will change and evolve depending on circumstance and seasons in life.  Who we are at our core should be consistent and we should work towards being someone we'd like to be around and someone we'd want our children or nieces and nephews to grow up to be.

Exercise:
Make a list of the values you want to exemplify in your life and that you want to drive how you react and respond to life's circumstances.  Then make a second list of the traits that may not be so pretty that still exist in your life.  Being aware of our vices can help us know when they are ruling our decisions, but pretending they don't exist or ignoring them is a surefire way to let those negative traits control your life and define who you are.

Choose one value from the first list and focus on that this week.  For me, it may be actively extending grace to others.  Since I am (painfully) aware of just how impatient I get with what I perceive to be ego in others, I will focus on being more gracious with those people this week.  This may mean having a bit more empathy, because puffed up pride is generally a sign of something deeper.  Maybe someone is reading their own headlines and talking non-stop about themselves and their "successes" on Twitter because of insecurity or a need to prove to a family member or friend that they can be successful and aren't wasting their time with their entrepreneurial dream.  When I think about it that way and try to see past the surface of what is frustrating me, my impatience dissipates and turns into a greater understanding (though not condonement) of their actions.

I recommend tackling one value at a time to help you focus and really notice the areas in your life where you can replace some of the vices with the virtues you want to define you.  When you focus on being a better person yourself, you'll find that the issues you have with everyone else fade in magnitude. 

Motivational Monday :: True Measure of a Person

"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good."
- Ann Landers

Friday, February 20, 2009

Meet the Planners :: Kay Wooten

washington dc wedding planner

Name: Kawania (Kay) Wooten

Location: Washington, DC

Company Name: Howerton+Wooten Events

Number of Years in Business: 2

Website: hwevents.com

Blog: hwevents.typepad.com

How did you get started in wedding planning? 
One night during my first year of grad school, I was sitting on my bed thinking, “What am I doing? I hate this.” Then I picked up a magazine and read an article about conference and event planners. And, like that, I left what was comfortable to me, and made a major change in my world. For the next 15 years, I managed conventions and high-end events for Washington DC non-profits and foundations. For years, I wanted to start my own business, but I was too chicken – I was afraid of failing. Then a couple of years ago, I decided to take the leap. The idea of starting my own business still scared the crap out of me (I don’t think I was born with an entrepreneurial spirit), but I hated the fact that I allowed fear to stop me. So, I took the leap and started Howerton+Wooten Events. I haven’t looked back.

If you had to start over what one thing would you do differently?
I would have stayed true to me.  I started out trying to be true to the almighty dollar – six months later, I didn’t recognize myself or my company. I spent some time this summer re-writing my business plan to get my company back on track.

What's your favorite item in your emergency kit?
Well, I use double-sided tape more than anything in my kit, but I was considered a rock star at one wedding because I had a can of Fix-A-Flat in my trunk.

What is the best piece of business advice you've ever received? 
Don’t try to be all things to all people. Figure out what you do best; determine your target market; and spend time developing that.

What two people (past or present) would you have as guests at a dinner party and why?
Condoleezza Rice – She’s an incredible lady and I have a great deal of admiration for her and her accomplishments, but she’s got some explaining to do.
Jesus Christ – I’ve got some explaining to do, too.

What are your three favorite blogs besides thesmartplanner.com?
The Bride’s Café. Her posts are fun eye candy.
Seth Godin’s Blog. A must read for entrepreneur newbies like me.
Weddex Blog. Another great blog that focuses on the business of weddings.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

How to Understand Your Advertising Options :: Part 2

sales and marketing advice for wedding plannersWritten by guest expert Saundra Hadley of planning . . . forever events. You can follow Saundra on Twitter here.

A review of well-known advertising mediums and my own opinions and thoughts on each one, continued from part 1 earlier today:

Outdoor Advertising: Billboards or digital outdoor screens should be primarily used as a directional or for a simple, branding message. Directional: if you have an office or retail space that is physically near the billboard and it is pointing out where your location is or a slogan/branding message to reach the masses. Due to the cost of this type of advertising and the broad reach (anybody driving to go to work may or may not see your business name, and are not necessarily a potential client), it is most often a poor investment for small businesses. Especially small niche businesses like wedding/event planning.

Radio/TV and Cable: Radio spots rely on ratings and track their demographics. They sell radio "spots": 10, 30 or 60 second commercials during a specific time period (12 hours or 24 hours). Most likely you'll pay for each spot; however you want to inquire about the time factor that the spots will run. For example, your 60 second commercial that plays at 1:00 am is not probably the best use of your money for targeting brides. Ask your radio sales rep specific questions about when your spot would run. It is also critical to know the demographics of the station. It doesn't matter how inexpensive the radio promotion is, if the radio station is targeted to a demographic that doesn't have the income nor the need to purchase your niche service, it's wasted money. Think Talk Radio stations where their listeners are more interested in hearing commercials regarding assisted living facilities.

TV and local cable offer local small business advertising promotions as well. Even though national shows might be airing, a small business can have a 30 second commercial that runs locally. Like radio who rely on ratings, TV is obviously similar. You should be provided dates, times and shows that your commercial will run. You'll want to check with your sales rep on production costs for the commercial, often it is an additional price. If you choose to do this investment then be sure you can keep the commercial so you can possibly run it on other channels if necessary. And as always, since you are a savvy advertising expert by now, you'll ask for and will be provided in-depth demographic information on each station.

Most often TV and Radio are not the most viable financial advertising investments for small businesses. You'd be better off in relying on a strategic viral campaign that will position excitement about your business and positive branding.

Yellow Pages: I think it should be called the Purple Pages after Barney the Dinosaur. Honestly, when is the last time you've picked up a yellow paper book to look up a number? With Blackberrys, iPhones and computers; business phone numbers and addresses are at your fingertips more easily than ever before. Yellow Page sales representatives will try their best to tell you about the legitimacy and convenience it is for your clients to find you. I'll beg to differ, but that's just my opinion.

If you feel that your business needs to be in the yellow pages for your local area, then invest with one yellow page book (the biggest one and not all the knock-offs or cousins of the big book). Take out a one line listing, no bold. Remember you will already know which is the biggest book because you will ask and receive (in writing) how many books are distributed to both personal homes and businesses and what counties. Do not let them talk you into a half inch size text ad with bold listing. You don't need it. People who use the yellow pages want to find two things: your location and phone number. Keep it simple.


Direct Mail: Lists for brides can be purchased through national bridal websites, bridal shows and some wedding retail stores (bridal attire stores may sell their lists). Experts say that successful direct mail campaigns gets a 1-2% return. It's been my experience that the best Direct Mail campaigns have a "call to action" advertising message: Hurry! Order your invitations before May 31, 2009 and receive a 15% discount!

A more eco-friendly direct campaign can be easily done through email marketing. It's cost efficient and less expensive. Just be sure that you are not spamming people.

Shows and Expo's: Every city is different, but most often bridal shows are a great way to reach your brides. I love it because it is an opportunity to market your business and network with clients. In other areas, bridal shows are not the best avenues to reach their targeted market. When purchasing booths, be sure to look at the location, the marketing of the show and the producers. Then use your Cost per Client formula to be sure that you are making a wise investment. If new to this type of marketing, then don't be afraid to call other wedding professionals in the area and ask them about their experiences with the local show.

After the advertising publishes . . .

Measuring Results: Do you track your advertising? Do you ask every person that calls or emails you how they heard of your business? You should and you should also track which advertising mediums that you close the most sales from. Otherwise, how do you know what is working for your business and what isn't?

There is no exact science to advertising. Your market, advertising mediums, buyers, your message and the needs of your services all play into which advertising medium is more effective than the next. Your challenge is to identify what works for you and that includes making mistakes. Remember, what was great for your business two years ago might not be working for your in 2009. Be willing to analyze your business every year and be willing to change.

How to Understand Your Advertising Options :: Part 1

sales and marketing advice for wedding plannersWritten by guest expert Saundra Hadley of planning . . . forever events. You can follow Saundra on Twitter here.

Understanding advertising is an area of business where most entrepreneurs are left dazed and confused. In tough economic times, the knee-jerk reaction is to decrease your advertising, which is not always the best thing to do, especially if your competitors down the street are still able to have a presence. That's why now it's more important than ever to understand how to invest your money effectively.

Notice I said the word "invest", not expense. You should always view advertising as a true investment in your business. The return on your investment can sometimes be immediate, or may happen months or years later. Often, business owners make their advertising decisions based on emotions and input from savvy media sales reps. I know this to be true because I used to be one of those reps. I've sold Internet ads, print, magazine ads, booths at expos and helped my customers develop multi-media campaigns to effectively drive business to their establishments. I have to admit, having an advertising sales background and now actually being an advertiser, I'm a media sales person's worst nightmare. I ask them 100 poignant questions and will make them work for their commission!

Figure out Your Game Plan: The most important thing you can do for your business (and pocketbook) is to take the time to accurately determine your target market. Every wedding planning company is different; some planners who are at the beginning stages with their business will want to garner as many clients as possible for experience. Others, who are veterans in the industry, want to cater to more of the luxury clientele. It doesn't matter, there is a niche for everyone; you just want to be sure to determine your own focus.

For example my company's target client is: 25-35 years old, professional/educated, typical range of wedding budget is $15k-$60k and they either live locally or live out-of-town and want to come "home" to get married. They are modern, edgy, tech savvy and are willing to pay for creative and unique events.

Once you've identified your target market then you'll want to analyze the different advertising methods that you should use to reach them. Where are your potential clients spending the most time? On the Internet? Do they buy wedding magazines? Do they read the paper? It is only after deep soul searching and research of your clientele would you want to begin choosing your adverting. It doesn't matter if the advertising investment is as low as $50 a year; if it isn't reaching your target market, then don't waste the money.

Cost Per Client: When factoring any type of advertising I always analyze our total investment and factor how much it costs to reach each potential client. For example (and I'll use nice round numbers to make it easier), if a local magazine ad is $1,000 and reaches a potential 5,000 subscribers then it costs my business $.20 per person. To take it a step further, you should analyze how many people you actually converted into paying clients. Same scenario: $1,000 ad and you sold two clients, the cost per client conversion is $500. Quite a difference, no? However, this is where the investment part comes in; there is a business price for keeping your name in front of people and have them see your branding.

Vanity/Emotional Advertising: There will be times in your entrepreneurial career that you will make advertising decisions purely based on emotion or vanity. You want your business name in that particular magazine because of other wedding planners' participation or you want to be perceived as significant by other professionals in the industry. It's going to happen and we've all done it. However, recognizing the difference between a well-thought out and logical advertising campaign vs advertising that serves your ego will carry you through challenging business years. That is unless you have lots of money to simply throw around, then by all means, carry on.

Below is a review of well-known advertising mediums and my own opinions and thoughts on each one.

Online Advertising: We all know our clients are on the Internet, otherwise many of us would not be devoting so much time in our company's websites or blogging. The key is to know where to advertise online. Many "major" bridal websites (you know their names) will want to sell you banners or preferred listings on their pages; under your state and category of business. Sales reps for these websites will inform you of their xxx,xxx unique visitors per month/day and xx,xxx amount of brides in YOUR state looking for wedding professionals. This is informing you of their "audience" not necessarily your "targeted market". It's the difference between how many people you reach vs. how many actual buyers you are reaching. Which do you think is more important?

What you really need to know is how many brides are in your immediate demographic area (if local brides are primarily your highest source of income). For example, a website notifying me that for only $70 per month, they have over 70,000 brides sign up and visit their Indiana "wedding section" each month. This doesn't tell me how many of those brides could truly become a prospective client.

So instead, I ask them how many brides sign up in 10-12 local zip codes (I provide them in a surrounding area of approximately 100 miles). Now that huge monthly audience of Indiana brides just dropped dramatically to 250 targeted brides. I then apply my trusted Cost Per Client formula. At $70 a month to reach 70,000 Indiana brides (my sales rep would be so happy), it would cost me $.0010 per bride each month. However, at $70 per month to reach 250 targeted potential clients, it would cost us $.28 per bride. And that is ONLY if every single one of them went to the buried "planner" section on the site. Interesting.


Print Advertising: Newspapers and magazines are taking a huge hit right now in reduced readership and paid subscriptions. Magazine subscriptions are at such an all time low they are hiring outside agencies to sell magazines to businesses at a reduced bulk/rate. This is so they can inform their advertisers that subscription numbers are still high. Businesses can purchase for a small yearly fee and receive 5-6 national magazines per month; including some very popular bridal wedding magazines.

You've already developed your Game Plan, and if it includes advertising in national wedding magazines, fantastic! The majority of wedding planners though will want to check in their target demographic area for more regional or local wedding magazines and print publications.

We have several to choose from in our area. Some are good and some are weak in the demographic area (not our target market). You can be sure that I have asked our media reps every possible question regarding their publication; where, how, who, when is it distributed to? Are there reprints/reruns? Is the publication put online? What is their average reader income, age, education level? This information helps us determine if we will insert an advertisement and if the answer is yes, how to develop the print ad's advertising message.

This year we've done something radical and pulled our print advertising out of two local, quality wedding niche magazines. We've always seen a return on our investment, however in the past years the return has dramatically declined. Instead, we'll be using old-fashioned networking, bridal shows, website, blogging, social media and viral networking to promote the business. We'll let you know if this was a successful gamble or not. I may be twittering you from the drive through at BK Lounge (Burger King, thanks Dane Cook).

Check back later this afternoon for part 2 of Saundra's insights on how to understand your advertising options.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Blogging Workshop in Orlando

A date and location has been confirmed for the Blogging Bootcamp in Orlando!  We'll be meeting on Thursday, May 7th at the Celebration Golf Club.  Lunch is provided, laptops are optional.  You can sign up here. Special thanks to Trisha Hay for helping to line everything up for this workshop!

I'll also be teaching the workshop in Atlanta on May 6th, if that is more convenient for you and you can find out more and register for that one here.

You can see a full list of where the workshops will be by clicking here.  There are 15 cities on the schedule, so I hope to see you at one of them!

Speaking at March HIP Event

The Arizona Hospitality Industry Professionals (HIP) will be hosting a networking breakfast for their March meeting and I'll be speaking on the basics of how to leverage social networking for your business. Here are more details:

When: Tuesday, March 24th from 8:30-10:00 am
Where: Latilla Restaurant at The Boulders Resort
Cost: $20 members/$30 non-members if you RSVP before March 21st. After the 21st, it will be $25 for members and $35 for non-members.
RSVP: hip-az{at}cox.net

HIP is open to event planners, catering managers and DMC's, and restaurant event coordinators. It is not open to the entire event industry, so please be sure to check if you are eligible to attend before you RSVP.

Hope to see you Arizona planners there!

Life + Work Balance

Our series on Life and Work Balance will return next week with a conversation with Saundra Hadley, a wedding planner in Indiana. Saundra's unique perspective comes from owning her own business, along with her husband who also owns his own business. Saundra will chat more about living in double-entrepreneurial household while raising a teenage son.

In the meantime, you can catch up on our previous Life + Work Balance conversations here.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Blog Updates for Twitter

Social media, while a great tool for small business owners, can be time consuming with all of the little tasks that go along with it.  One task that can chip away at productivity is manually updating Twitter whenever you update your blog.

Twitterfeed is a free service that will update Twitter whenever the RSS feed for your blog updates.  While updating twitter may only take a few seconds out of your day, it takes much more time and energy than that when you factor in having to remember to do it, interupting your schedule to open Twitter and manually update, and then refocusing on your previous task.  Automating this little area will help your day run more smoothly and ensure that every blog update you make gets cross-posted.



Each Tuesday, we'll be sharing a productivity tip to help you manage your time more effectively and get more done during your work week. Do you have a favorite trick that helps you be more productive? Share in the comments below and we may feature you and your tip in an upcoming segment!

Monday, February 16, 2009

Placing Marketing Materials at Weddings

One of the things I find that many vendors in the wedding industry tend to forget is that this is a service industry and that the primary root of the word service is serve.  We are in this industry to serve others and to help make their special occasion run smoothly and their memories full of joy instead of stress.

While I don't believe in being an indentured servant to your clients, I do believe that many wedding planners (as well as other professionals) need to let their ego take a backseat and really focus on making the day about the bride and groom.  I once heard a deejay remark that the deejay or band should be the focal point of the reception.  Um, no. The couple should be the focal point of the reception.  The wedding should never be about the vendors who make it happen; it should always be about the guests of honor. 

When it comes to placing marketing materials at a wedding reception, I am a big stickler on this.  Business cards should be handed out upon request, not placed on every table or on the deejay's booth.  In fact, I would argue that placing your brochures or an email sign up sheet or business cards at a reception is disrespectful to the client and smacks a little of desperation.  When a couple has spent months poring over the design of their tables and has then spent several hundred (or thousands) of dollars on each table to achieve the look, then having a vendor's marketing materials on the table or in the reception space is a sure-fire way to tacky it up.  Again, this wedding is about the bride and groom, not about the people who produced it.  (Caveat: I do think that a photographer's slideshow of photos from the day is fine, as it is an added value for the couple.) 

When a guest asks me who the photographer is or who the deejay is, I hand them a business card for that particular vendor from a few that I keep on me during the wedding.  This allows that vendor's information to get into the hands of those who want it in a discreet manner and keeps the focus on the bride and groom. A wedding professional's signature should be their excellent work, and when a they do a great job, people will and do ask for their name and information.

Motivational Monday :: Inventing the Future

"The best way to predict the future is to invent it."
- Alan Kay

Friday, February 13, 2009

Reading Website Statistics Properly

Liene's Note: This post originally ran in March of last year and I am rerunning it because it is such a popular and confusing topic.  

Analyzing traffic statistics is an important part of maintaining a business website or blog, but they can be confusing, especially when you aren't sure what it is exactly the numbers mean. Here is an abridged explanation on how to measure stats effectively:

Hits
Hits are incredibly misleading because they do not equal people. A hit is tracked for every file loaded each time your page is loaded. This means that each photo is tracked as a hit, so if you have a blog heavy with pictures, each time a reader loads that page, you are getting a substantial amount of hits. For example, if you blogged about a recent wedding and have 10 photos up from it, then that post counts as 11 or more hits each time it is viewed by one person. So if you had 100 visitors in one day and 10 pictures on your first page, that would be over 1,000 hits just because of the photos alone. A lot of people like to measure hits because the numbers are inflated and it makes them feel as though they are receiving a lot of traffic and are popular. While the ego boost may feel nice for a while, it is based on numbers that don't actually mean too much and that do not measure how effective your blog or site actually is.

Page Views
Page views vary per visitor because they are tracked each time a new page is loaded. Knowing page views is useful because it can help you determine how long people are staying on your site once they arrive. Did they find your blog and leave immediately or did they stick around and dig through your archives? If you are tracking your website, it is important to know if the information you are presenting hooked them in to learn more about you and your company, or if they got bored and went on to the next company's site on their list. When analyzing page view numbers, it is important not to give them more weight than they're worth. If your aunt is reading through everything you ever wrote, then those numbers don't really count for much because she is probably not a potential client. Same goes for a competitor searching through all of your archives or site pages to see what you've been up to.

Unique Visitors
Unique visitors are important because they represent individual IP addresses accessing your site within certain time frames. This number can sometimes be skewed by people resetting cookies or visiting via a site that masks their IP address, but it is generally the most accurate measure of real traffic to your site. Your unique visitor number will usually be lower than your daily visitor number or monthly visitor numbers because it doesn't count someone if they visit your site three or four times in one day or every day in a month, whereas the other two count every visit, unique or not.

Return Visitors

Return visitors are another number to monitor because they show how many people are coming back, which shows how large your consistent audience actually is. For blogs, this is an extremely important statistic to measure because it means people want to know what you have to say on a regular basis. If your returning visitor stats are low it is a sign that you need to work on being more interesting or that you are not delivering information that is pertinent to your audience or that you are not attracting your target market or readership.

Subscribers
Blog subscribers are important because it means they have signed up to receive updates, either via an RSS reader or email each time you update your blog. The number of subscribers you have is usually lower than your real reader numbers. Just like magazines, some people will subscribe and others will pick up a copy on the newsstand when it's released every month. It is important to track subscribers though because those numbers represent people who are committed to keeping up with what you have to say and not just tuning in when it seems interesting to them. At the same time, it is also necessary to remember that many subscribers may be other vendors or competitors and not brides.

So why is it so important to measure your web traffic? There are a lot of reasons, but here are a few that pertain specifically to wedding planners:

1) Knowing how effective your site or blog is in reality versus how popular you think it is. Why would you spend so much money and/or time on a marketing tool without really knowing whether the ROI is worth it? If people are not sticking around on your website to learn more about what you have to offer, then you are most likely losing sales that you don't even know about.

2) If you are considering hosting advertising or purchasing advertising space on another site or blog, then it is important to know your real numbers. Being able to prove stats will help you set competitive ad rates and give you leverage in attracting advertisers. If you are considering advertising on another site or blog, it is important to know whether or not your ad will be in front of a lot of eyeballs. If it's not included in their media kit, ask to see screen shots of numbers and graphs from their analytics in order to get an idea of the site's real traffic patterns before handing over your marketing dollars. Nothing on the Internet is really anonymous anymore, and if they won't provide you with those numbers (which would be a red flag anyway), then there are other sites where you can look up that information for yourself.

3) Knowing the real numbers behind your stats shows how sticky you are (it is called the world wide web after all) and whether or not your efforts are attracting the right people. For example, if you are featured in the e-version of your local paper or a national magazine, it will most likely generate traffic to your site. Knowing how to measure your analytics will show you how many of those visitors are actually in your target marget. Did they stick around past the initial introduction or are they a fleeting acquaintance?

There are lots of statistics tracking services on the market, but four that work well are Google Analytics, Feedburner, Statcounter and Sitemeter. All of these have versions that are free to use. Google Analytics was formerly Urchin Analytics and used to run about $300 a month. Google acquired it and made it free of charge, but didn't downgrade any of its power. It is considered one of the best on the market for small business owners to use.

Meet the Planners :: Lorena Musselman

hispanic wedding planner

Name: Lorena Musselman

Location: Orange County, California

Company Name: Palomaya Divine Celebrations

Number of Years in Business: 1

Website: palomaya.com

How did you get started in wedding planning?
Five years ago, when I was planning my own Hispanic/ Latin inspired wedding, I realized that there were very few resources available for Hispanic and Latin weddings including Hispanic wedding planners. So, I decided to plan the wedding myself. After seven months of planning, the result was a beautiful and extraordinary wedding that featured a perfect blend of my Hispanic/Latin and American culture as well as my husband's American culture. The seed was planted.

After our wedding, I began working in the corporate event marketing arena specializing in Hispanic programming. After five years and several life experiences later, I realized that my passion for all things wedding and Quinceañera's, my passion for serving the Hispanic market, my eye for design, strong people and organizational skills and the fact that I now have a solid marriage made me an ideal candidate to become a Hispanic Wedding and Event planner. My sole purpose is to help brides and Quinceañera's realize the event of their dreams! And help the corporate world connect with their employees or clients in a more meaningful and personal way by delivering unique, personalized and memorable events.

If you had to start over what one thing would you do differently? 
Nothing. Everything has happened the way it was supposed to.

What's your favorite item in your emergency kit? 
Safety pins. These came in handy when the zipper on my wedding dress broke.

What is the best piece of business advice you've ever received? 
“Do what makes you happy! You need to make whatever dream you have come true and love what you do.” From the podcast: The Joy of Creative Thinking by Jane Lanz.

Which two people (past or present) would you have as guests at a dinner party and why? 
My Mom and Maya Angelou.  My mom is the life of any party! She loves to entertain guests by making them laugh out loud.  Maya Angelou is the epitome of graciousness and loveliness. She is a beautiful person that radiates beauty and warmth.

What are your three favorite blogs besides thesmartplanner.com?
1. National Society for Hispanic Professionals
2. Weddingbee
3. Style Me Pretty

Thursday, February 12, 2009

New Blog for Creative Professionals

sean low business consultantSean Low, the president and business guru of Preston Bailey Design, Inc has started (finally!) a new blog for creative professionals. It's less than a week old and already every post is chock full of meaty insight and advice that you can apply right away to your business.

You can read Sean's new blog here and you can follow him on Twitter here.

Sean will also be speaking at Engage!09, and you can learn more and register for that here.



Photo by Laura Novak Photography

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Life + Work Balance :: Kawania Wooten - Part II

washington dc wedding plannerKawania Wooten is the owner of Howerton-Wooten Events, a wedding and event planning company in Washington DC. Today she shares a bit about finding balance with a 9 year old son with strict dietary needs and a husband, while planning weddings and corporate events in a fast-paced city.

I've been married thirteen years this year and it took us a while to figure out what's most important. Mutual respect is huge. My husband is supportive of me and he knows that my success is his success. He is also very busy with his career and I don't hold his schedule against him if it doesn't always work with mine. I do run most of my household, but I know that I can ask for help. I jokingly went on strike one weekend last year and refused to wash any dishes or do any housework. I have to pull back every now and then and my family knows that they have to help. I have to cook a lot from scratch because of my son's food allergies, so while I am cooking a big dinner on Sundays, I cook two meats. We then have that in leftovers or other dishes the rest of the week. There is no "leftover shame" in this family.

I have a good network and that's key, too. For example, this week I am at a hotel on the Hill running a conference. I have friends I can call and ask to pick my son up from school and watch him until my husband gets home from work. My son is at an age now where I don't have to monitor what he eats as closely because he can do a lot of that himself, and that helps.

Children respond to rituals and schedules and thrive if they know their boundaries. Bedtime rarely changes, so there are no arguments there. I still have to prod him in the mornings to get him out of bed and out the door to school, but he is pretty good at sticking to the schedule we set. When I traveled for events when my son was younger, I'd make copies of his books and bring them with me and then read to him at night over the phone. He preferred I read to him and I didn't want to miss out on that daily ritual. I also write a note to put in his lunch bag every day, so when I know I am going to be gone, I write them ahead of time so the rituals are still there.

It's hard to have work/life balance when you have an overly dependent child. My motto is "always make new mistakes" - go ahead, screw it up, I do. And from that, we learn as we go. If a wedding didn't go quite right, I'll mention it to my son. It's healthy because my son is willing to try new things and not worrying about my reaction if he messes up.

I work from an office in my home and it really helped all of us when I designated that space as belonging to Howerton+Wooten Events and not to mom. It is hands off this way. You can't come take paper and pens; if you need those, we go to the store. I was always running out of paper and it was adding up in my business expenses because he would take it to draw on. I had to separate that space and once I did it really clicked in my husband's and son's heads.

I do take a lunch hour and swear by it and everyone should. I do eat in my house, but not in my office. After I eat, I walk around my block, which takes me a good 25 minutes. I feel so much better afterward and feel renewed for the second half of my day. During my lunch, I'll call my husband to check in on him or call my mom or a friend. Other times, I use the time to just be quiet. When your world is so small and when you get caught up in your own four walls and your company, everything seems so huge, so heavy. When you step back you can get a new perspective.

In September I had a mammogram. They found something and called me, but I let their messages slide because I was busy and I figured it was nothing. After a month of their calls I received a certified letter telling me I had to come back in. I really scared myself because I had ignored my body's signs. I had ignored calls from my doctor for over a month because I was busy and figured it would wait! I really believe that we're missing messages that come from our bodies and spirits if we let our schedule and balance get out of whack and have no control over our life. Not only is work and life balance important, but it's so important to have health balance - to make time to eat right and workout. It really goes back to our priorities and saying 'what's most important here?'.

I get networking in, but I don't do every single thing. I meet for coffee and consultations on Mondays and Fridays and certain evenings. I am adamant about not taking my son to appointments with me. I do make time to blog and twitter because those help my business, but I am also careful to turn them off when I am not working.

Of all the things I do, I am most proud of raising my son. Not because I'm a perfect mom, but because every day I get a chance to try and do it right again.

Workshops Added :: NYC, Texas and Seattle

I'm so excited to announce that a few more cities for the blogging workshops have been confirmed.  You can click on the links below to register for the workshops in that city:

April 23 in Seattle, Washington
May 20 in Houston, Texas
May 27 in Manhattan, New York
July 15 in San Antonio, Texas

You can view the entire list of current cities on this post and I will be adding a few more to that before wrapping up the workshop schedule for 2009.  You can also view the workshops under the Speaking Calendar on the right hand side of this page.

Thank you so much to everyone who helped make this possible and I hope to meet more of you smart planners at these workshops this year!

Life + Work Balance :: Kawania Wooten - Part I

washington dc wedding plannerKawania Wooten is the owner of Howerton-Wooten Events, a wedding and event planning company in Washington DC. Today she shares a bit about finding balance with a 9 year old son with strict dietary needs and a husband, while planning weddings and corporate events in a fast-paced city.

When my son was born, he was really sick and had to go on lots of medication, so my husband and I got on a schedule then in order to stay organized. This started with schedules for his medicine, and then schedules for his diet in order to accommodate his numerous food allergies. As he got older, his activities increased, so we worked on creating a house schedule.

These little schedules started partly out of necessity, to keep me sane. I would say that the whole process keeps us sane. Even on vacations, I keep a schedule or itinerary. I don't worry about not having spontaneity because it occurs within the confines of the schedule. We create schedules similar to the block schedules and my husband and I use Outlook to send appointments back and forth.

In the house, we're good about blocking time. My son now understands that work done from home is still real work. The biggest challenge we faced in getting to this point was understanding that time is money. When I break down how much it costs if I have to drop what I am doing for my company to run to his school because he forgot something basic, he understands that there is a value to what I do. This also helps him remember to double check to make sure his lunch or books are packed before he leaves for school. If we all work together, we have a better time at it.

I encourage my son to work with me during the workday when he is home from school and he takes it seriously because I pay him for it. He works for Howerton+Wooten Events (not me) a few hours a week. He stuffs, seals and stamps envelopes. He files (I have a system that even a 9 year old can follow), makes copies, and he cleans my office. He earns money this way, and this is his allowance. He has a puppy savings account and 10% goes to that. Then 10% goes to his charity. The rest he can spend.

I work in the house until 5:00 and stop then. We both respect that time. Because of that, there's no "mommy's always working." I work very hard to be a “guilt-free” parent. I know that I am responsible for part of our household income, so I don’t feel guilty when I am working. We're also very matter of fact that if we don't work, he doesn't get a Wii or the other things that are paid for by working. I'm not a stay-at-home mom. That's not the card we were dealt and we have to deal with that and not feel guilty. Guilt can really wreck a schedule.

I schedule family time that I am not allowed to cancel or reschedule – my family knows that and holds me to it. When I am on family time, I “live in the moment” and I refuse to talk about work or answer e-mails, texts or business calls. Friday night is family night and if my husband is working, then we go roller skating or to laser tag or to the movies or something fun. I have no problem telling clients that I have an appointment during that time. They don't need to know what that appointment is for. Office hours close (phone calls and all) on Fridays at 7:00 and then it is time with my family. I really feel that if you start breaking promises to children, there's no turning back because they come to expect that you will not be consistent.

Every other Saturday is date night. It is not just my kid who needs work and life balance, but my husband, too. We remain flexible and if I have a wedding on that Saturday, then we have our date on Sunday. I do not work on Sundays, not for religious reasons, but to keep me sane. I need a day of rest to unplug from work. I believe having those boundaries is huge or you'll be all over the place.

If I worked in corporate offices downtown still, I would not be able to take a break from that work day to do laundry, so I try to stick to business during business hours. I do admit that I get up at 4:00 am. In part because I am an early bird and in part because I focus when it's nice and quiet. So I get a lot done in the office between 5 and 7:30 when everyone wakes up. Then I help with breakfast, take my son to school and then I'm back at my desk at 9:30.

I also had to learn that it's okay to tell people 'no'. I don't go out with friends all the time or volunteer a lot anymore. If it doesn't fit in my main priorities - family, church, job, or best friends - then I minimize what I say yes to and they have to be okay with it. Unless it fits in, I try not to take it on.

Check back later today for part II of our conversation on Life and Work Balance with Kawania.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Blogging Workshop in Virginia

I'm excited to announce that I'll be in Virginia on August 12th to teach the Blogging Bootcamp.  Special thanks to Missy Christianson from Antonia Christianson Events for working to make this happen and to Adina and Scott Hayne for letting us use their studio on the beach in Norfolk.

You can register for the Norfolk, Virginia workshop here

Productivity Tip for Wedding Day Timelines

Creating wedding day timelines and production schedules is a task that wedding planners must do for each wedding.  More often than not, you may find yourself waiting until the month prior to the wedding and creating the timeline in one prolonged sitting.

This time-consuming method requires pulling all the contracts from the various vendors, entering the times they arrive and the times they leave, calculating the length of set and strike based on everything that needs to be accomplished, making sure everything is packed up and loaded out by a certain point to avoid having your client billed with venue overtime charges, and so on and so forth. 

Instead of doing this all at once just before the wedding, create a block of time each week to work on timeline maintenance.  During this block of time, pull any information or vendor contracts that you may have received during the previous week and update each client's schedule. Some weeks you will have information to add and other weeks you won't.  By the time the final month rolls around, you'll have a timeline that simply needs to be tweaked in certain places rather than created from scratch.

This will save you time and stress during the busy wedding season because most of the detail planning work for the day will already be completed.  Creating your timelines as you go will also help you spot areas of potential conflict in advance and allow you plenty of time to remedy them.

Depending on the number of weddings or events you commission each year, your block of time needed for timeline maintenance each week will vary, but alloting 20-30 minutes is generally a good rule of thumb.




Each Tuesday, we'll be sharing a productivity tip to help you manage your time more effectively and get more done during your work week. Do you have a favorite trick that helps you be more productive? Share in the comments below and we may feature you and your tip in an upcoming segment!

Monday, February 9, 2009

Being Remarkably Terrible

Being a remarkable company doesn't necessarily mean you are great.  You can also be remarkably obtuse or remarkably hard to deal with or remarkably slow.  The key is to make people remark about how amazing your company is, in every respect.

I recently had lunch with an industry colleague at a cafe in town.  She arrived a few minutes early to our 11 am meeting.  The door was open, so she walked in and asked for a table for two.  The staff informed her that they opened at 11:00 (it was 10:53) and that she couldn't be seated yet.  They then added that she would need to wait outside, in the cold weather, until they opened.

I am a firm believer in setting boundaries for your business and having rules in place to help keep your business from taking over your life.  However, rules are meant to serve us, we are not meant to serve them.  By being rigid with their rules and making my friend wait in the cold, this restaurant left a bitter taste in our mouth with their lack of concern for their customers.  Their customer service is not unremarkable; it is causing remarks that don't encourage others to dine there.

Self-Evaluation Exercise:
What rules do you have in place that may be inhibiting your clients from having a great experience with you rather than adding to it?

Blogging Workshop in Atlanta

I'm excited to announce that the Blogging Bootcamp will be in Atlanta on May 6th.  Registration is now open and you can sign up here.  Special thanks to Eliana Baucicault and Christine Gallagher for helping to make this happen. Here's some more information:

You already know why you should blog.  We'll show you how.
Blogging Bootcamp :: Atlanta
presented by Liene Stevens of Blue Orchid Designs and The Smart Planner

Who: Any wedding professional who wants to effectively leverage online media to grow their business
When: Wednesday, May 6th, 2009
Time: 9 am - 4 pm
Where: Christine Gallagher Photography Studio in Downtown Atlanta
Cost: $150 per person

Since the launch of the Blue Orchid Blog in 2006, it has grown to include over 3000 unique daily visitors and is partially to credit for the launch of two new Blue Orchid Designs offices on the East Coast. In the Blogging Bootcamp, Liene will share specific strategies and techniques she has personally used to grow the Blue Orchid Designs blog to where it is today.

This workshop is open to all wedding professionals, not just wedding planners. Space is limited and will be filled on a first come, first served basis so reserve your spot now! Laptops are optional and lunch will be provided.

Topics covered will include:
*How to discover and leverage your blogging voice
*How to maximize your blogging ROI
*How to develop killer content - consistently
*How to set short term and long term goals for your blog
*How to effectively analyze your stats and blog traffic
*How to increase your readership and keep them coming back for more
*Specific strategies and techniques to use your blog to improve your main website's SEO or "findability" on Google
*How to promote your brand through your blog's design and content
*Maintaining professional boundaries while still being personable
*And more!

The Blogging Bootcamp will not be a class on blogging philosophy. You already know that blogging is a good idea. We'll be showing you how to do it so that it is worth your time. No topic will be off the table, and any questions you may have will be fair game.

This event would not be possible without the generous support of By Your Side Events and Christine Gallagher Photography.

You can read a recap of the Arizona workshop here and register for the Atlanta workshop here! Questions? Please send an email to workshops{at}thesmartplanner.com.

If you'd like to bring this workshop to your city, please click here for more information.

Motivational Monday :: Steering Passion

Passion is fuel. At best, it’s an engine. What passion doesn’t tend to do so well is steer. Passion will always go forward even if it’s aimed for the rocks. That’s why ships have crews and captains and navigation systems: to keep all that power on course.
- Jon Glassett

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Blogging Workshops in Your City

the smart planner workshops

Due to popular demand, I excited to announce that I am making The Smart Planner Blogging Bootcamp available in other cities across the country!

Topics covered in this workshop include:
  • How to discover and leverage your blogging voice
  • How to maximize your blogging ROI
  • How to develop killer content - consistently
  • How to set short term and long term goals for your blog
  • How to effectively analyze your stats and blog traffic
  • How to increase your readership and keep them coming back for more
  • Specific strategies and techniques to use your blog to improve your main website's SEO or "findability" on Google
  • How to promote your brand through your blog's design and content
  • Maintaining professional boundaries while still being personable
  • And more!
The Blogging Bootcamp is not be a class on blogging philosophy. You already know that blogging is a good idea. We'll be showing you how to do it so that it is worth the investment of your time. No topic will be off the table, and any questions you may have will be fair game.

Workshops currently confirmed for 2009 include:
April 2 :: Columbus, Ohio
April 21 :: Chicago, Illinois 
April 23 :: Seattle, Washington 
April 29 :: San Francisco, California
May 6 :: Atlanta, Georgia
May 7 :: Orlando, Florida
May 20 :: Houston, Texas
May 27 :: Manhattan, New York
June 3 :: Knoxville, Tennessee 
June 10 :: Washington, DC
June 17 :: Raleigh, North Carolina (pending)
July 9 :: Austin, Texas (pending)
July 15 :: San Antonio, Texas 
July 22 :: Las Vegas, Nevada (pending)
August 12 :: Norfolk, Virginia 
Los Angeles, California (pending)

This list will be updated as other workshops are scheduled. If you're interested in bringing this workshop to your area, please email workshops{at}thesmartplanner.com for more information.



Photo by Stuart Thurlkill, Eyes 2 See

Friday, February 6, 2009

Explaining Blogs in Plain English

Have you started reading other wedding or business blogs but still aren't quite sure what they're all about or how they would be helpful for your own business? Do you get asked often by your industry peers who are confused on the benefits of blogging? Here is a quick two and half minute explanation on blogs and how they work. It is the best one I have seen thus far:

Meet the Planners :: Heidi Hughett

monterey bay wedding planner

Name: Heidi Tinuviel Hughett

Location: Monterey Bay Area, CA

Company Name: Couture Celebrations

Number of Years in Business: 4

Website: couturecelebrations.com

Blog: couturecelebrations.blogspot.com

How did you get started in wedding planning?
I have been in hospitality for 19 years. I starting as a server and working my way up through management until eventually I was a food and beverage director at a faculty club/conference center. I also spent seven years in the kitchen as a professional cook, and three years as a food and beverage manager at a high end resort where I was part of many weddings. With my second child on her way, I decided to leave corporate hospitality management and start my own company. Weddings had always been my favorite part of the business, so I decided to make it my focus.

If you had to start over what one thing would you do differently?
Started earlier! I was lucky to start with a good size vendor file after being part of the wedding industry in the area for many years, but I wish I had the confidence to start earlier. I always knew I was born to do this!

What's your favorite item in your emergency kit?
Duct tape, Shout wipes, pre-threaded needles, and my tag-it gun for instant bustle fixes

What is the best piece of business advice you've ever received?
Always treat your vendors the way you want to be treated. They are all equally important parts of the team.

Which two people (past or present) would you have as guests at a dinner party and why?
Preston Bailey because he is so much fun and Audrey Hepburn because she was so fabulous!! A few bottles of bubbly and that would be one sensational night.

What are your three favorite blogs besides thesmartplanner.com?
Snippet and Ink, Style Me Pretty and Weddingbee

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Sending Email Attachments

Note: This post originally ran last March, and I am rerunning it today. With the various computer types clients and vendors have, it is important to send attachments in a format everyone can easily read.

If you are a business professional and are still sending email attachments as a Word document or Excel file, you need to stop. right. now.

PDF's (short for Portable Document Format) are the industry standard and can be opened by anyone who has the free download of Adobe Acrobat Reader (and yes, everyone has this, whether your target client is the young college-aged bride or the older bride with an established career). Everyone does not, however, have compatible versions of Word and Excel.

If you have a Mac, creating a PDF is simple because it is built into the system. Simply press print and choose "Save as a PDF". Voila! You're done and ready to attach your document to an email.

If you are on a PC, some new versions of Microsoft Office also have a built in option to convert documents to PDFs. If you have an older version though, and you don't have the Adobe suite, here are two free versions of PDF creators that you can use: PDF995 and Primo PDF. These two versions also create PDFs via the print menu.

Everything you do contributes to your branding, including how you handle email. When you are a professional charging for your services, then each little detail needs to reinforce in your client's mind that you are worth what you charge and are in fact a pro and not a wedding hobbyist. Sending attachments via PDF is simple and should be incorporated into your standard email procedures.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Life + Work Balance :: Terrica Skaggs - Part II

wedding planner in savannah georgiaTerrica Skaggs is the owner of Fabuluxe Inc, an event planning firm in Georgia and the co-founder of iWed. She is more importantly a loving wife to her husband and mother to three young children, ages 6, 4 and 18 months. In this interview, she shares about balancing family and the demands of her company while working from a home office, and a husband who is away most of the time for his job.

You recently left a comment on The Smart Planner stating that you get irritated when wedding planners play the mom card as an excuse as to why they can't do something.  Can you explain a bit what you meant by that?

Definitely, this is an area I am really passionate about.  It's really easy to defiantly declare "I don't have time for (fill in the blank) because I am a mother with three kids".  I make time for networking, blogging, learning, and reading because it pays the bills.  I also make time for playing, reading bedtime stories and running in the park, because it pays the heart. I never use my children as an excuse as to why I can't do something.  It's like using motherhood as crutch. My children and husband aren't liabilities or casualties of my hard work; they are my motivation for it.  It is your job as a wedding planner to manage time, manage people and manage their money.  So to say that you don't have time for networking or blogging or expanding or developing your business means that you aren't that great of a planner and should probably reevaluate your career choice.  I know that sounds harsh, but you are asking people to pay you to do all of the things you say you don't have time for.  If you can't plan your work hours to maximize your return, how can you effectively plan someone's wedding?

I really believe that your business is just like one of your children.  All of the parenting books talk about the investment you need to make in your children's lives.  If you put minimal time in, you will get minimal out and it will show.  This goes for your business as well.  Make time for that specific child (your business) and then you can incorporate it into your family.

Part of being able to handle family life and a business, is not having the entourage mentality you wrote about earlier.  Being pregnant, my husband overseas, and with a stream of weddings to work on, I knew I needed help.  If you have kids and a steady business flow or high maintenance clients, you have to get some help.  Not an entourage, but an actual team that you can delegate actual responsibilities to.  You have to get over yourself and any misconceptions you have about what you have to personally do or you'll never grow.  You'll always be stressed and never strike a balance.

I am all about working smarter, not harder.  Again, the parenting books always tell you that your kids should see you reading and writing, so when they are reading or working on kindergarten homework, I am at the table with them writing in my notebook or reading a business book.  It allows me to kill two birds with one stone.  I actually write out my blog posts by hand during these times and then type them up later.  It is easier and faster for me to do it this way. 

What areas do you feel you need to improve on as far as finding or maintaining life and work balance?

I need to improve on everything!  While I am the queen of schedules and have those in place, they can get thrown off so easily.  All it takes is that monkey wrench of a sick kid or a major appliance breaking and everything is out the window.  I am still learning to delegate more and outsource more things.  Your time is worth so much more than it costs to outsource certain tasks and you can never buy back those missed moments with your children.

I also want to be the type of woman my daughter grows up to be or the type of woman my sons grow up to marry, so I really try to keep my priorities straight about family and business and not be so focused on my company that I don't have time for people.  I can't let their dad be gone and their mom be gone too when she's right here in the house.  Sometimes I will write down ideas and come back to them later during work hours, so that I don't interrupt my time with my kids.

It's also important to take time for yourself, and I am learning this in small ways.  Yesterday I laid on my bed and listened to the white noise app on my iPhone and fell asleep to the sound of the Amazon rainforest.  It was so relaxing.  Other times, I will get a facial or just go for a walk and try not to think about work or my kids or anything important.  So often, between taking care of our businesses, our kids and our husbands, we forget to focus on ourselves.  Without taking care of ourselves though, we can't function.

Click here to read Part I of our conversation with Terrica on Life + Work Balance.  Become a Smart Planner by subscribing in a reader or via email so that you don't miss out on any of our future Life + Work Balance conversations.


{Photo by Anna and Spencer Photography}

Life + Work Balance :: Terrica Skaggs - Part I

wedding planner in savannah georgiaTerrica Skaggs is the owner of Fabuluxe Inc, an event planning firm in Georgia and the co-founder of iWed. She is more importantly a loving wife to her husband and mother to three young children, ages 6, 4 and 18 months. In this interview, she shares about balancing family and the demands of her company while working from a home office, and a husband who is away most of the time for his job.

What are the most difficult challenges you face in balancing your wedding planning company and family?

The ages of my kids make it hard. They are 6, 4 and 18 months and don't understand that you're home and working.  They don't realize that mommy's not just playing around on the computer, but that she is focused on something important.  To them, if you are there, it is for their benefit.  This took some time for my husband to realize, too.

It's also hard to make sure that the lines of work and home don't blur.  I've learned that I have to be very specific about how I spend my work hours. I don't do laundry during work hours anymore and I've learned to prioritize what can wait until afterwards.

With the kids being home, it's quite a challenge, especially considering I don't have outside studio space.  For me though, my work hours at home still have to be professionally maintained because clients don't care if you have one kid or 3000, if you're Angelina or Brad. They want what they want and they want it handled professionally.

Did you start out with boundaries in place or did they evolve? What boundaries have you implemented to help you balance your family with your work?

I didn't have any boundaries at first and I learned quickly that I need them.  It was too chaotic otherwise.  When I started my company, I had just had my daughter and we had just moved from Baltimore to Georgia.  So for the first year, I was commuting back and forth between Baltimore and Georgia in order to coordinate the weddings.  Now that I have my third child, we're rockstar status, and we have a system down.

I try really hard not to check email before 10 am.  I'll read it on my iphone sometimes, but I really try to stay out of my inbox before then.  I like to devote that time to my kids.  From 7:30 - 10 is focused on getting them ready for school or the day, brushing their teeth, getting breakfast, and playing together.  After that, they would go outside and play and because I had just spent a few hours with them, they didn't feel neglected when I sat down to work.  Then naptime rolls around which is awesome.

I knew that my kids needed something visual to know when I was working, so I made a little sign that hangs on my office door.  One side says "Mommy's at Work" and the other says "Mommy's Off".  If the Mommy's at Work sign is up, they know that they can come in, but they have to be very quiet, can only ask limited and important questions.  When the Mommy's Off sign is up, they know that they can come in and play and have my full attention.  It's also important for me to remember that this works both ways and that I need to give my kids the same respect they give me.  If the sign is flipped to Mommy's Off, I don't go look at the computer or pull files to work on.  That time is focused on my kids and they need to see that I respect them in that way.

Along with setting up office hours for me and my kids, I set up office hours for my clients and vendors.  I used to say "call me anytime" out of habit, but didn't really mean it - I was just being polite.  Some people really will call at any time however, so I learned that lesson.  I now say "feel free to call at anytime between" and then I give them a specific timeframe.  

It's really all about schedules.  Kids like routine and schedules - it creates familiarity and makes them feel safe.  So I really try to create schedules for the kids and for me and stick to them.  Dinner is promptly at 5:30 at bedtime is at 7:30.  In between is hanging out as a family and the "wind down" routine before bed.  My daughter announced yesterday just before bed that she was changing her name to Beyonce, and I said "Awesome, but Beyonce's bedtime is also 7:30."

The number one boundary I have is that I do not give out my personal address or phone number to anyone.  If you have kids or are even thinking about having kids, don't put your personal info online or in print.  I recently received a call on my unlisted home number at 10:30 in the evening from a woman who aspired to be a wedding planner.  When I answered, she said "oh my gosh, I can't believe I am actually talking to you! Please don't hang up!"  That incident was another reminder that people will go to great lengths to get what they want when they obsess about something.  I still have no idea how she found that phone number.  I do not know this woman and would not recognize her if I walked by her on the street.  I have no idea if she was just a fan or mentally unstable and if she showed up at my house, that could put my children in real danger.  It is not fair to put children in jeopardy over the relatively low cost of a mailbox or business phone line.

Your husband is overseas quite a bit for work, how have you learned to deal with him being away so much?

My husband's job has had him away for most of each year since my daughter was born, so it's regular business for us at this point.  When he is home on leave, I make sure that he knows the schedule beforehand so that he can adjust into it when he is home.  He is only home for 30 days at a time, so if he comes in and creates his own schedule, it throws the kids' schedule off and I have to start over with them.

Some people will disagree with this, but I also rarely take weekend or evening appointments to meet with clients or potential clients.  Since we are a one parent at home household most of the time, I don't have someone to watch them while I run to a meeting.  My parents are staying with us now, and that has been so helpful, but they are not available all the time.  I compare my job's time structure similar to a doctor's: if a client wants an appointment, they have to make time for it - either leave work a little early or meet at lunch or whatever. I cannot bend my schedule entirely around theirs.  During my off hours I am on call, and if the question is important, I will return a call that evening, but if it can wait until the next morning to answer, that is when it gets done.  If a client wants to talk about her dilemma of choosing between pintuck or bichon linens, then that can wait until the next morning.  If she needs to talk to someone at 10 pm about that matter, then I am not the planner for her.  My clients have been able to respect these boundaries and I haven't had any of them question them thus far.  

Before my parents moved down to Georgia, I would fly them in for my wedding weekends so they could watch the kids because I didn't really know many people whom I could entrust my kids with all day.  I also try really hard not to blur the lines of professionalism and I don't take my kids to appointments with me.  They say that you can have it all and wear both hats simultaneously, but really can you?  At my very core, I am a mother first, and the stress of whether or not my kids will behave or keeping an eye on them in case they fall will always take precedence in my mind over the work I need to be focusing on during an appointment.  If my parents aren't available to watch them, I'll drop the two younger kids off at a day care center for the appointment (my oldest is in school).  But even then, it is $25 per kid per day, which adds up quickly.  I find that many planners don't plan for these costs, and they really need to make sure that those real costs are built into their overall fee.

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Tuesday, February 3, 2009

5 Reasons to Look Back

Many people equate looking back with living in the past. The two are not the same. Here are five benefits of looking back:

1) Looking back reminds you of your roots.

2) Looking back allows you to measure your growth.

3) Looking back allows you to assess mistakes and create new "best practices".

4) Looking back allows you to celebrate where you currently are.

5) Looking back allows you to examine patterns of change within the industry and learn how to predict future pattern shifts so you can be better prepared. (History repeats itself.)

Looking back does not mean focusing on or living in the past.  It does not mean continually kicking yourself about certain decisions or situations that could have been avoided.  It means reviewing where you've come from so that you can focus better on where you're headed.  If you can't remember where you started, and the bumps along the way, how will you know which areas you have grown in?  And more importantly, if you can't look back, how can you be grateful for where you are now? Without gratitude, growth is a slow and/or joyless process.

If you still have a copy of your first business card, I encourage you to pull it out and look at it (I know, this might be painful. Mine make me both cringe a little and laugh). Take a few minutes and reflect on how you and your business have changed and grown since you began.  What is the biggest lesson you have learned thus far?

Monday, February 2, 2009

Speaking at Chicago ISES Day of Education

chicago ises day of educationFor those of you in the Chicago area, I will be speaking at the Chicago ISES Day Of Education on Tuesday, February 17th.

The Day of Education will be at the Trump Towers in downtown Chicago.  Some of the other speakers include Richard Carbotti, Jamie Butcher, a panel featuring Jim Bailey, Bill Ferguson, Pamela Patsavas, and Sandra Sobczak, Dr. Jean Norris, and Kathleen Esterquest.

The event is all day, from 8:30 am - 4:30 pm, and is open to members and non-members. Seating is limited, so click here for more details and information and to register for your spot.

Hope to see you there!

Motivational Monday :: Defining Persistence

Persistence isn't using the same tactics over and over. That's just annoying. Persistence is having the same goal over and over.
- Seth Godin