Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Jealousy, Apathy and Celebrating Milestones

In the past few weeks some very big things have happened professionally for friends and colleagues of mine. Pop the bubbly and share a toast types of milestones.

Yet when these people shared their great news with others they count as friends, the overall response was a bit lackluster. Perhaps the word "congratulations" never appeared on a vocabulary test in middle school? On the occasions I observed the lack of enthusiasm for their good fortune, it didn't strike me as jealousy on the part of the others hearing the news, but rather apathy. If whatever good wasn't happening to them, they just couldn't get excited at all.

As you grow and become more successful, others will find a way to excuse your success as something else. These write-offs aren't always blatant misgivings about the circumstances that got you to where you are. They often come in the form of pretending that what should be a big deal is really not a big deal at all.

Ignore these brush offs and celebrate your journey's milestones anyway, with or without them. It is a big deal and you deserve the glass of champagne.


Originally published June 2010

8 comments:

Simply Jubilee Events said...

I so agree. I just blogged about something very similar a few weeks ago. Glad to see others expressing similar views. Thanks, Liene.

Mrs. said...

Super cool! Thanks!

Maria @ {ritzy bee} said...

You my dear are spot on!

Hannah said...

Thank you - I needed this today!!!

Recycled Business Cards said...

I think every little bit of accomplishment should count for something and should be rewarded with at least a little celebration. This encourages people to strive more :)

Jessica @ The Budget Savvy Bride said...

You really hit the nail on the head, Liene. I often find it scary to share exciting news at the risk of sounding braggy- not to mention afraid of my accomplishments being downplayed by someone else. I often find myself downplaying my own exciting news in order to not be disappointed by the lack of enthusiasm by others. How does one express pride in their accomplishments without sounding like a show-off? It's such a fine line between being humble and being boastful.

Beth Helmstetter said...

:). So perfectly stated Liene.

Joy Nudd said...

I love this post, I keep going back to it. You are such an encouragement to many Liene. Thank you.

Joy