Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Making Your Wedding Blog Stand Out

There are currently over 4000 wedding-related blogs being updated every week. Is the wedding blog market saturated? Hardly.

Does the fact that this niche hasn't hit saturation point yet mean your blog will automatically get read? Not at all. What are you doing to make your blog stand out?

Here are three tried and true methods to help you do just that:

1. Have an informed opinion and share it. There's no room for Switzerland in the blog world.
2. Help people be better in some way. Show them how to have a better wedding, get along with their mother-in-law better, feel more photogenic for their wedding photos, etc.
3. Stop talking about your products or services all the time. Paradoxical, yes, but you'll sell more when you talk about yourself less.

Monday, November 29, 2010

On Luck

My philosophy on luck: any luck that exists is the luck you bring to the table. Sitting around and waiting for great things to happen to you is a sure path to failure.

One of the things I have seen time and time again in this industry is people always wanting the "magic wand" or "silver bullet." It doesn't exist. No one thing is going to make your business better: no one magazine or blog feature, no one workshop, no one blogsite design, no one "big name celebrity" client. If anyone promises you that you can build your business by being lazy or without having to work hard, they are flat out lying.

I don't know about you, but I can't afford for my business not to earn a profit. I'm not married so I have no one to share expenses with, I don't have an outside job and I don't have a trust fund. Having a non-revenue generating business is simply not an option for me. It's amazing what you can do when those are the cards you're dealt.

My friend Ali Phillips always jokes that she is going to start a workshop called "How to Make Money the Old Fashioned Way: By Working Your Ass Off." If there are any secrets to success in business, that one is it. Take advantage of opportunities when they come your way. Check your pride at the door. Things may not get easier, but you'll find that you suddenly have a lot more "luck."

Sunday, November 28, 2010

Splendid Sundays Volume 55

A handful of splendid finds from around the worldwide web:

Can't get enough of Kate and Prince William's nuptials? Anne Chertoff and her team at AisleDash have launched a site completely devoted to the royal wedding.

J.Crew sold this past week for $3 billion.

A full orchestra plays John Cage's 4'33".

"Imagine if our founding fathers had this attitude that many bloggers do — that ideas and the people owning them should not be criticized publicly."

Quotable: "I'm sure that the moment man discovered fire, there was some guy nearby saying, 'Too smoky. Can burn you. Lame.'" -- Andy Baio

Do you have any splendid finds to share?

Saturday, November 27, 2010

Things That Amaze Me :: Volume 5

the breakers west palm beach

I constantly find myself amazed by nature, but being at the beach inspires me the most and is probably the most restorative for my mind and soul. It's simply impossible for me to be unhappy for long while near a beach. I can sit for hours and stare out at the expanse of water which is so huge yet the thought that the ocean is made of tiny droplets made up of even tinier molecules blows my mind. It's a good reminder to me that life is so much bigger than whatever problems may be weighing on my mind at the time.



Sunrise at The Breakers, photo via my iPhone.

Friday, November 26, 2010

Liene's Holiday Gift Guide

I am not a big shopper. I've managed to go my entire life without lining up with the masses on Black Friday, and I've never indulged in the more recent Cyber Monday specials either. I love a good deal, but crowds or clicking around poorly designed websites in a race against the clock to find gifts? Not so much. I do however, love supporting small businesses, and I love that there are so many talented companies in the wedding industry that offer products even for those who aren't tying the knot. Here are a few of my favorite things right now from wedding-related companies. It's certainly not an exhaustive list, but if you're stuck on a gift idea, these items may help you spread some holiday cheer.

personalized mugs and dinnerware

Jessica Rust’s eponymous designs made the blog rounds a few years ago, and I think it’s time for a blog comeback. Her dinnerware is whimsical and sweet, and best of all, can be personalized for the occasion. A custom mug is included in the swag for The B-List conference each year, and each one holds a special place in my heart because they remind me of all the incredible people I’ve been lucky enough to meet and work with in the wedding industry. I’m not a big collector of stuff because I like the things in my home to mean something. So dinnerware that is pretty and has sentimental value? Winning combo. Added bonus: free shipping on orders over $25 before November 30th. No code required. You can find dishware for all your friends and family here.

stylish rolodex

Who keeps business cards in a digital age? I do. Yes, all the info gets put in Highrise so it can be accessed online, but there’s something about paper that helps jog my memory. All I have to do is pull a card and I remember who gave it to me, what they were wearing, where we were, what the event looked like, the cocktails served, etc. Originally created for the HOW Design conference, Envelopments shared their colorful Roll-O-Decks on their blog and the Internet swooned. Use it to keep your cards organized or to file recipes, inspiring quotes, as a creative mailing list registry on your store’s check-out counter or just as a colorful pick-me-up on your desk. The stand isn’t included, which is perfect because then you can find one to fit the style of the gift recipient: clear acrylic for the minimalist or a vintage Mad Men-esque original from ebay for the corporate ladder climbing hipster-at-heart. Roll-O-Decks can be purchased here.

jewelry dish

If anyone has a success story they can trace directly to the power of blogs, it’s Caroline at Paloma’s Nest. “Discovered” by two top design blogs within a week of launching her line on Etsy at the end of 2007, Caroline has worked hard to keep that success going ever since. Others featuring her talents include Martha Stewart Weddings, Vogue and Better Homes and Gardens. A personalized spin on her trademark Ring Bearer Bowls (yes, she’s also managed to change wedding tradition in the past three years – busy lady), can be purchased online at Anthropologie or with a custom message at her shop. I use mine to keep my go-to earrings easily accessible. I also love this gold-plated vintage key, perfect for city-dwellers looking to give Santa some help (and their smart, curious kids a viable story).

letterpress thank you note

The handwritten note is still the highest form of social media. For all of the benefits technology brings, nothing replaces opening the mailbox and receiving a card from a friend, a card whose very presence says you are worth taking a few extra minutes for. I love the minimalist white-on-white designs of these notecards from Simplesong Design, perfect for people who want to forego fuss as well as a non-feminine option for men who need to send a note. Each letterpressed piece is hand fed on an antique press in artist Suann's studio, The Hive at 1511, in Old Town Alexandria, Virginia. You can order your set of custom cards here or peruse Simplesong's ready-made line.

luxury bedding

This luxe bedding from Bridal Bar and home goods designer Jennifer Adams is on the pricier end (either a splurge or an investment depending on your view), but if you’re looking to buy a gift for someone who has everything and enjoys the finer things in life, these sheets are it. Bridal Bar founder, Harmony Walton, sent me a set as a housewarming gift when I moved to NYC earlier this year, and they are the softest sheets I have ever come across. If you know a workaholic who needs some motivation to shut off their computer and get more sleep, a set of these may do the trick. You can save 35% if you purchase your set from the Jennifer Adams Home website, with code bbfriends35.

What's on your gift guide this year?

Thursday, November 25, 2010

A Season of Generosity

generosity in business

Happy Thanksgiving and cheers to the beginning of a season that celebrates generosity.



image via Seth Godin

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

What Is RSS and Does My Blog Need It?

In non-technical terms, RSS is like Tivo for the web. If a person is subscribed to your RSS feed, then every time you update your site, it will deliver it to their blog reader of choice. This means that they don't have to remember to visit each site they like individually. They can just check in with their feed reader and see updates from all their favorite blogs in one place and not have to worry about missing any if they forget or get too busy.

Using RSS is free for both you and the people who visit your blog. RSS is typically indicated by a variation of the following symbol or through a link that says "subscribe":
what is RSS?
Your subscribers are your VIP blog readers because they are the ones giving you permission to talk to them whenever you'd like. By subscribing to your blog, they are literally telling you that they want to hear what you have to say on a consistent basis. It is generally easier to convert a subscriber into a client or customer than it is someone who just visits your site directly and inconsistently.

Because of this, it's important to make it as easy as possible for people to get addicted to you. Most people won't spend more than three seconds looking for a link, so make sure the option to subscribe to your blog via RSS is near the top of your blog. Many web designers like to put the link at the bottom of the site, but many people won't scroll all the way down to find it.

Most blogs are set up with RSS by default, but I recommend adding your feed to Feedburner, a free service from Google, so that people have an easy option to subscribe to your blog via email as well. An added bonus, Feedburner provides statistics on your subscribers, which also integrate with your Google Analytics account.



Image via pckult.net

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

On The Bigger Picture

photo

I took the above photo with my iphone on a flight into Chicago earlier this year. While the sky above the clouds was blue and vast, the people in the Windy City below were experiencing a gloomy, grey morning. I love that the photo is a reminder that grey skies aren't the whole picture.

Monday, November 22, 2010

How I Prepare For Presentations

I often get asked for advice on presenting, so I wanted to share how I prepare for presentations. This method continues to evolve with each presentation I give.

Presentation Tools
I use Keynote, Apple's answer to PowerPoint, for my presentations. This product is so much easier to use than PowerPoint, and is especially helpful for video clips - I can just drop them in and play them easily when I get to that slide.

As far as design goes, my slides are very simple, because it's easier on the eyes: white background, black text, photo and my logo in the bottom right corner of each slide. The purpose of my slides is to illustrate a point, not to be full of notes for people to copy down. People will take notes on what sticks out to them, so I don't want to clutter up the slides with information overload. Doing so only causes people to focus on note-taking rather than listening and really hearing the information. I don't provide an outline of my presentations on worksheets for the same reason.

Content Creation
Once I have a topic, I use the sticky note feature in Keynote to make notes of the different points I want to make. Each point gets a different sticky note on a blank slide. Once I have all the points I want to make, I can drag and drop the slides in order of flow. The sticky notes don't show up when the slideshow is projected, so I can keep the notes and slides all in one place and in context.

With this loose outline, I'll then find a photo to illustrate each point. Sometimes I'll add a caption below it for the people who appreciate text in addition to visuals. I use the photo as a memory prompt for what I am speaking on at that point.

I have an encyclopedic memory, which I attribute to studying music growing up. Quick memorization of what's on a page and being able to reproduce and improvise on it later is a critical skill for musicians. Having this skillset means I am able to retain a lot of information and quickly recall it when presenting.

I used to script my presentations because that's how everyone said it had to be done. Those were some of the worst talks I've ever given. When I stopped doing that and started doing it this way, my presentations flowed much better because it allowed me to use my strengths (memory recall) and react better to the audience rather than trying to hit every word in my notes.

Engaging the Audience
As a speaker, I ask the event organizer for a list of attendees ahead of time and I look up every single website and blog of every single attendee. This is a trick I learned from Rebecca Grinnals and it has proven invaluable. Going into a presentation, I am familiar with the work of every single person in the room and how they portray themselves online.

I also try to use photos and screenshot examples from people in the room because it helps them connect with the presentation on a more personal level. When using examples, I try to focus on the positive and best practices. If I do talk about things to avoid, I'll never use an example from someone in attendance. If you cast someone in a negative light, human nature is to go into defense mode and instead of listening, everyone sits in fear of whether or not they'll be called out next. While I think constructive criticism is useful and in short supply, I'll only give it in larger presentations when it is specifically solicited or cleared with the person ahead of time.

Presenting Details
On the tech side, every presentation is exported to Powerpoint through Keynote and both types of presentations are saved on two different flash drives in addition to being on my MacBook. This way, if something should happen to my laptop, I can access my presentations in either PC or Apple friendly format without any trouble. I also always bring a small pouch that holds a power cord, two remotes, as well as both a DVI and a VGA adapter so that my laptop works with whatever the venue's setup is.

Other Notes
I never send the presentations ahead of time to the event organizer and I don't sign over copyright. Mark Kingsdorf has a saying, "You don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate." If the speaking agreement includes relinquishing copyright (and most do), that's something I negotiate before signing.

What are some of the things you do to prepare for a presentation?

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Splendid Sundays Volume 54

A handful of splendid finds from around the worldwide web:

How to create a studio on a budget.

The dates for the summer Engage!11 conference, an event for wedding professionals working in the luxury bridal market, have been announced and registration is now open. I can't say enough about this conference, and you can read my previous posts on it here.

Google launched Boutiques.com this past week, a new way to shop for fashion online. It will be interesting to see if this changes how people purchase soft goods online and the impact these shifts will have on the wedding industry as women change their buying behaviors.

Quotable: "The reason we are so often unhappy is because we don't set our goals for the people we will be when we reach them. We set our goals for the people we are when we set them." -- Dan Gilbert, Stumbling on Happiness

Do you have any splendid finds to share?

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Things That Amaze Me :: Volume 4

This is a clip from the show "Ukraine's Got Talent". Kseniya Simonova, the contestant, is working on a light table covered in sand. The table and her art is being projected on a screen behind her. She is telling the story of one of the bombings of Kiev during World War II. Just after the five minute mark in the clip, you'll see one of the monuments in Kiev that commemorates those aerial bombings.

The video is about eight and half minutes long and well worth taking a short break to watch.


One of the things I also love about this video is that the artist had only been drawing for a year when she did this performance - proof that stories need to be told and talents shouldn't be hidden or hindered because of age or lack of "paying one's dues". What part of your talents have you been holding back that you can share with world?



PS: She won.

This post was originally published in December 2009.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Creative Thinking Resources

Creativity is a muscle and needs to be exercised in order to grow stronger. Sometimes this means stretching your brain in different ways in order to come up with different, and more creative, solutions. Here are three of my favorite resources on creative thinking:

Thinkertoys: A Handbook of Creative Thinking Techniques
One of the reviewers on Amazon describes this as "the closest thing to a cookbook for creative thinking" and I agree. It is full of exercises, brainteasers and tools that help challenge and shape the way you see and think about things. The exercises can be done at any time, and it's not a book that you read all in one sitting.

The Artist's Way
Julia Cameron is best known for Morning Pages, a practice that requires you journal all of your rambling thoughts for three pages each morning when you first wake up. This is something I've been doing since before I came across her work and the actual name for it, and I can attest the method works. It frees your mind to work on what is important. The book has other valuable insights and exercises as well, and is worth reading.

Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life
Anne Lamott, one of my favorite authors, shares effective ideas on how to get creative things done. Don't be fooled by the title, this book is not just for writers; Lamott's advice applies to any business owner.

All of these resources require dedication and work, which is why many shy away from them. Creativity is a discipline, and the people who are most successful creatively are the ones who put the time and energy into it. What are some of your favorite resources for creative thinking?

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Organizing Creativity

I'm a big believer in writing things down. The ability to capture ideas is critical in being able to turn them into something useful. I always have a journal in my purse and the notes app on my iPhone gets used often since it has an easy email function.

Finding those ideas later, however, can be a huge pain. Which journal did I write that in? I saw a photo that would work great for this client project, but can't find where I bookmarked the site. I heard a quote once that would illustrate this so well, but can't remember who said it. John Maxwell, an author who has published more than 50 books, has an index card filing system in order to easily find quotes and sources to reference in his writing. This organization method helps his creativity because he can pull from years of research, reading and random inspiration to help shape his current ideas. It also helps him get his writing done faster.

After reading about this, I set up a similar method that worked a little better for me, particularly since I prefer to have as paperless an office as possible. One of the tools I use to capture ideas, and to help shape projects, is Evernote. More recently I've also been using Backpack from 37signals as it integrates with their other products I use. So far both work well, albeit a bit differently from each other. If you work with a team, Backpack is a better option for collaboration on ideas than Evernote, in my opinion.

As I go through my daily routine, if I see a quote that stands out, or read an article I want to reference later, or come across a photo that inspires me, I can email or save it directly to Evernote or Backpack. I can also tag the item, so I can find it more easily later if I can't remember the exact details of what I'm saving. For example, if I need to reference a statistic or marketing study, I can look it up quickly by doing a search on a related keyword.

A wedding photographer I know decided to study notable photographers from the past to help her build a more solid foundation and give her greater understanding of her craft. Evernote and Backpack both make this kind of studying easy because you can create a folder or page that houses all the articles, online photos, book titles, etc that you come across. This keeps everything in one place and allows you to revisit it later.

If you're a designer, you can use these tools to organize all the inspiration you come across on a daily basis. You can create a folder or page for wedding chair ideas, wedding invitation ideas, wedding cake styles and so forth and save those images or ideas to it as you go. If you need to share an idea with a client who is just not "seeing" it, you can easily send them a photo or link from your notes, saving you from having to spend a lot of time hunting down a visual of your idea. You can also set up folders or pages for specific clients and keep ideas for their respective weddings organized all in one place.

It's easier to create ideas and get them out the door if you're organized. These are two tools that work really well for me because they are simple to use.

What do you use to keep your ideas organized?

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Amateurs Add, Professionals Edit

Some would argue that creativity is best when there are no constraints and the artist or business is free to do whatever they like. I disagree; constraints are what make creativity valuable.

It's easy to be creative if your client has a multi-million dollar budget. It's much less so if that budget is only a few hundred dollars. A professional can hone their creativity and deliver something beautiful regardless of the financial constraints.

Amateurs add, professionals edit. The best magazines have fewer pages, not more. The best blogs are the ones that curate their content and don't settle for information (or inspiration) overload. The best photographers are the ones who can capture myriad emotions in a single image. The best designers are the ones who keep deleting ideas until the product is so simple that you think you could have created it yourself.

Constraints and editing require clarity of thought and vision. They require someone to truly know their craft. These things make a business more valuable, not less.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Getting Creativity Out the Door

If you’ve met me for more than twenty minutes, then you probably know that I'm a huge hip hop fan and that the easiest way to get me on the dance floor is to play Mary J Blige. The creativity that comes out of this musical genre is astounding. One of the most prolific producers in hip hop, and arguably one of the best writers and lyricists, is Jay-Z.

Once when Jay-Z was a guest on Bill Maher's show, Bill presented him with a bound book of his published songs from over the years. The video clip is below (less than a minute long) and it shows the sheer amount of work that the artist has put into his career. Keep in mind, this is just what was published. It doesn’t include all of his songs that never made the cut and were never made public. 


The gift above wouldn't have been possible if Jay-Z had left all those songs stacked in files on his office shelf and never did anything with them. Being the best requires a relentless pursuit of what you love to do but also of putting what you love to do out into the world. Creativity is a discipline. True artists get up and create, whether they feel like it or not. It's no coincidence that inspiration strikes more often when you produce more often.

Success comes when you can marry the discipline of creativity with the discipline of getting it out the door.

Monday, November 15, 2010

Creativity Isn't a Birthright; It's Developed

For a long time during my adult life I didn't read fiction. I thought it to be a waste of time: real life is so fascinating on its own, why would I need to read anything made up?

About four years ago, for reasons I have since forgotten, I picked up a novel and read it cover to cover. What I found was that well-written fiction inspires creativity in me in a way that nothing else does. If I read fiction right before going to bed, I'll usually be up all night with ideas. When I finally do fall asleep, my dreams are more vivid, the characters more complex, the conversations more intellectual. I find that this creativity also spills over into business and other parts of life.

Fiction may not get your creative juices flowing like it does mine. It's possible though that you may be overlooking something in your life that might. If you're stuck in a creative rut, try something that you usually don't do. If you typically read books, try watching a movie instead. Spend a morning at a museum. Go to the zoo (I personally hate zoos, but it may work for you). Take in a baseball or football game. If you live in the city, spend some time in a more rural setting or vice versa.

Creativity isn't a birthright; it's something that is developed. Take an active role in finding ways to consistently stoke your creative fire.

What gets your creativity going?

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Things That Amaze Me :: Volume 3

It is my opinion that plastic is one of the greatest, and most influential, inventions ever. So many things we use in every day life wouldn't exist without it. Could you imagine your laptop being made completely out of metal? Or the breakthroughs plastic has allowed in the medical community? And where would we be without the fabulous Bakelite jewelry of decades past (yes, I have a weakness for vintage baubles)? Plastic is an invention that is only 155 years old, yet it permeates almost every part of our daily lives. Really quite amazing when you stop and think about it.

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Splendid Update

If you've been following me on Twitter, then you know that the medical situation I've been facing turned out to be a bigger deal and is taking longer to resolve than originally anticipated. The Splendid offices are currently closed for this month as I focus on my health, and I've scheduled Splendid Reruns of some of our more popular posts to update daily on Twitter for this coming week.

If you'd like to receive the updates on these reruns, you can follow along on Twitter here or you can grab a cup of coffee and dig through the archives in the right hand sidebar of this site. While there won't be fresh content this week, there are more than a thousand posts tucked away in the archives, should you have a few extra moments for blog reading.

If you've sent me an email recently, you will get a reply, but the time frame is a bit slower than normal because of everything that's going on. Thank you for being patient with this. I know it's not ideal, but these are the cards I've been dealt and I'm trying to play them the best I can.

Thanks, too, to all of you who have sent kind emails, notes and gifts (yay, I love presents!) during the past several weeks. Your stories have so encouraged me and I am so grateful to you for trusting me with them. Official thank you's and replies are coming as soon as I am back to 100%.

It may partly be the mix of drugs the doctors have me on, but I have been overly, sentimentally mushy when I think of all the truly amazing people I've been so fortunate to meet and work with through the wedding and event industries. You all are the best and I am so grateful that you tune in to read this blog on a daily basis. I really am the luckiest woman in the world.

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Online vs Offline Personality

I receive several questions via email and formspring, so I wanted to answer some of them here, since many people tend to have the same questions. If you have a question, send it to hello[at]thinksplendid.com and I'll try to answer it here on Think Splendid.

Q: Do you think that your online persona is different from your real life personality? 

I think my online persona is an accurate representation of who I am once you get to know me. I am actually quite shy when I first meet people and, ironically given that I work in the wedding and event industries, I find large events intimidating. Because of this, I am usually quiet and prefer to observe what's happening around me. The downside is that sometimes this comes across as rude or arrogant.

This is something I am acutely aware of, so I've been working on getting better at actively introducing myself or trying to initiate conversation first. I genuinely love people and love hearing their stories, but getting past the small talk and to those conversations is something that requires a focused effort on my part, and I don't always do the best job at it, unfortunately.

How about you? Are you more shy offline than online?

Saturday, November 6, 2010

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Where Luxury and Social Media Intersect

luxury weddings social media
Luxury is the possibility to stay close to your customers, and do things you know they will love. If you do luxury, you have to treat people in a human way. -- Christian Louboutin

I shared this quote in my presentation at Engage!10 last month because it captures both the spirit of customer service and the spirit of social media perfectly.

Social media is about conversations and, if used appropriately, allows your customers and clients to be heard - a basic human need. Anything that detracts from that is missing the point.

Auto-DM's or auto-following on Twitter (turn those off), using Twitter as a one way monologue (you're not that witty or profound), pop-up banners or squeeze pages on blogs (are you really going to force me to give you my email address just to read your blog post?), or tagging people in Facebook photos they're not in just so they'll see your promo image (come on, seriously?) all dehumanize the social media experience because they show that your priorities are not about truly engaging with the other person.

Be a real person. Treat others like they're real people. This works just as well online as it does in the offline world.



Photo by Marie Labbancz

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Social Media and Engagement Season

Engagement season, the time when the majority of marriage proposals occur, runs between Thanksgiving and February 14th, with the big question being popped the most on Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Year's Eve, and Valentine's Day. It is the time of year when brides (and increasingly, grooms) purchase every wedding magazine off the rack and scour the internet for the best wedding blogs and websites. This list gets culled over time, and the sites they ultimately choose to religiously follow are the ones that are the most inspirational and pragmatic to their own worldview and needs. In order to even make it to the chopping block though, your blog needs to be able to be easily found.

So how do you achieve that? Not by accident. It involves thoughtfully looking at where you want to go with your business as well as the type of clients you want to attract.

When I was planning weddings, I used social media as my primary marketing tool, and the blog played a huge role. Here is one example of how I leveraged the blog and the social networks I had built in order to build my brand and get more clients and revenue opportunities:

Know What You Want
In 2007, I knew that I wanted to grow the destination side of my business and to do that, I needed to get the word out that I would travel and produce weddings elsewhere. I had previous experience in destination weddings, but wanted to grow that part of my business to a point where it was profitable and worth not taking a wedding at home for. I also knew that simply posting "available internationally" was not going to do the trick, especially since everyone else had that on their site as well.

Another goal I had for my business was to expand the cities and markets my associate planners worked in. I knew that having greater brand recognition ("oh yeah, I've heard of them, they're great"), would make it much easier to open our doors in a new spot than if we were starting entirely from scratch and would allow us to charge our existing rates in those cities, regardless of what competitors were charging. (Sidenote: I have never been a fan of the idea that wedding pros should charge next-to-nothing just because they're new to town. Bills need to be paid: charge commensurate with what you feel is fair with your experience.)

Create A Plan
In order to help make those business goals happen, I decided to run a contest on my blog where the winner would receive month-of wedding planning services, regardless of where they lived in the United States. I didn't want the contest to have a sneaky or disappointing catch, so I decided I would also pick up the tab for my team's travel and accommodations. I did some math to figure what this would all cost me, and decided to devote a portion of my marketing budget to it.

I then set a date: the contest would launch on January 1st, 2008, the start of the new year and not coincidentally, within a week of three of the most popular days to get engaged. It would run for a month, then I would select three applicants and the blog readers would choose the winner from those three. The winning couple was announced on Valentine's Day.

I don't remember all the rules (though I intentionally kept them to a minimum), but I do remember that the couple had to be getting married in the United States, had to write a 300 word essay and send in a photo (so that readers could connect a face with a name), and couldn't already have a planner. I did not want to deal with the drama of someone firing their planner just so they could get a free one. I also decided that I wasn't going to make this a contest based on financial or medical related need; it would be open to anyone.

I also chose to use the contest as a way to subtly educate newly engaged brides on the cost of professional wedding planner. The industry as a whole was dealing with brides-turned-planners drastically undercharging for their services, and well, the cost of a good planner often includes some sticker shock. I included the planning services price value in the giveaway text and promotional materials so that brides reading my blog and the other blogs, could compare apples to apples when they interviewed their own planners later on.

Include Support In Your Plan
With the contest launch date set for January 1st, I decided to launch a series at the beginning of December called "30 Days To Plan A Wedding". For the month leading up to the contest announcement, I would provide professional tips and advice on the top 30 topics a couple needed to keep in mind while planning their nuptials: flowers, lighting, linen, officiants, catering, budgets, venues, etc. I was generous with the knowledge on the subjects as I posted. If a bride who perhaps couldn't afford a planner, could take the posts and ask her vendors better questions and thereby have a better wedding, that was fine by me. In fact, that was great! She was never going to hire a planner anyway.

But my motives for this 30 days series weren't altruistic. By the end of 2007, Google was indexing my site daily, and my posts would usually show up high in search results within a couple of hours. So for the month of December, a prime month during engagement season, when a bride is researching everything under the sun wedding related, my blog had fresh information on every major topic she would need to know. And it stayed fresh for the rest of engagement season, so when a bride found that page through a random Google search, she also saw the contest announcement pinned to the top of the page.

Running this series the month before my contest launched allowed me to set my blog up in a way that would organically attract more brides during the rest of engagement season.

Include Your Community
I had built some friendships with other bloggers as well and was active in the online wedding community, so on January 1st, I emailed a handful of them and asked if they would consider posting about my contest. I included a cute graphic that also had my blog's website on it, so readers could find my site should the image be separated from the post, because I knew a lot of the bloggers liked to include visuals with their posts. I also included some short, witty announcement copy so they could paste it into their post and not have to rewrite the details.

Because of the nature of the contest, word spread quickly and brides blogged about it (right-click saving the graphic so they could use it for their own posts and furthering my brand recognition) and talked about it in forums.

It would be unfair of me if I did not pause for a second to say that this particular method worked at the beginning of 2008, because the wedding blog world was MUCH smaller back then. Simply asking a blogger to post about something now isn't as easy, mainly because they are inundated with such requests all the time. It's also important to note that this worked because I had put in the time beforehand to build relationships with the other bloggers and never with the intention of getting anything from them. It just so happened that we turned into a community of friends helping each other out and spreading the word about our individual projects, and this was an opportunity for me to share mine. To this day, I am incredibly grateful for those ladies and am fiercely loyal to them.

The Results
  • The contest was blogged about on wedding blogs around the world, which not only sent new brides to my site, which many converted into loyal readers, but also created links that lived on in the archives of those sites, and helping my SEO.
  • The graphic helped promote brand recognition to the combined readers of all the sites it appeared on. 
  • More than a hundred brides sent in the application and many became devoted readers to the site. 
  • The three finalists asked all of their friends and family to vote. Studies show that the average bride has five bridesmaids, and three will be engaged within the next year. This strategy was also an opportunity to capture their attention before they were even actively looking to give it.
  • My destination wedding bookings increased and the ability for my associate planners to sell more easily increased as well. 
  • Two brides withdrew their applications because they decided to hire full-time planners instead to deal with all the details that were already beginning to overwhelm them. (Planners they happily paid a higher price for because I had been open about mine and they no longer had sticker shock.)
  • The execution of this strategy was part of the reason Rebecca Grinnals invited me to speak at the first Engage! conference in 2008, which led to other revenue opportunities and included me being able to meet people who are now some of my closest friends.
That's Great, Now What?
This has turned into a really long post, but I wanted to share all the steps, because this story is often followed with quite a few questions. I also wanted to share it in order to show the thought process, not so it can be emulated (and this idea may not work as well these days), but in the hopes that it may spark some creative ideas of your own. Ask yourself:
  • What do I want for my business in the next year?
  • How can I use the unique opportunities engagement season brings to help achieve those goals or desires?
  • How can I effectively leverage social media to help make those ideas happen?
Don't be concerned if you don't have an answer right away. Let your mind turn the questions over as you work on other things. You may be surprised at what you come up with.

Another thing: don't be concerned with what your competitors think of your ideas; they're not the ones writing you checks. As long as your plans are ethical and make sense for you, run with them and ignore the people who try to bring you down. I heard everything under the sun when I was doing this, including cheap shots at my personal life from people I barely knew. Other planners were livid that I was telling brides how to plan weddings in my 30 days series (I still maintain that if all it takes to replace you is someone figuring out your vendor questions and checklist, you have a weak business model to begin with). Still others wondered, out loud and to anyone who was passing by, how I could possibly have any weddings if I had time to blog.

I had time because I made time. Fortunately, that choice paid off and it still is. It can pay off for you, too.

Tools for Getting Published

Two Bright Lights, a photo sharing service for wedding professionals, released reports today showing the average response time of all their editorial partners.  These reports are tools that can help you make better decisions in your wedding marketing. A snapshot of what the report looks like is below and you can download the report on wedding blogs here and the report on print publications here (the reports are available to all, not just members).
getting a wedding published

Some things to keep in mind if part of your marketing strategy includes getting published: You'll notice that the response time from print editors is more than double that of blog editors. Magazines often work several months in advance of publication, so their lead and production times are almost always on a different schedule than those of blogs, which can publish immediately.

Both blogs and magazines receive a ton of submissions, and sorting through and getting to them all takes time. I know two magazine editors who go through more than 40,000 submitted photos each month. Abby Larson, editor of the Style Me Pretty blog, mentioned in her talk at Engage!10 that they receive between 300-400 submissions each week. Editors are busy, and getting published is not always a quick process.

Some blogs and magazines map out their editorial calendar in advance; others do not. This means that some editors will be looking for specific criteria at a specific time, while others will be looking for what fits the overall aesthetic and readership of their blog or magazine. If you don't get selected, it doesn't mean your work isn't publication quality (although it might, and it's important to be honest with yourself here), it may just mean that it's not a great fit for that specific blog or magazine at that specific time.

If you still feel that the response time is too long for your liking, Two Bright Lights will allow you to withdraw a submission (meaning the editor can no longer access it), and resubmit it elsewhere. It is one of the perks of the service: you get more control of the exclusivity and where your work is published.