Why I'd Like to See "Random Acts of Kindness" Die

Thursday, February 14, 2013

A couple of years ago I wrote a post called Six Phrases I'd Like to See Die. Today I want to add the phrase "random acts of kindness" to that list.

I'm not anti-kindness. Far from it. What I am against is greed and selfishness dressed up in nice sounding words, and that is exactly what this concept is. When you dig beyond the surface, what "random acts of kindness" really means is "I'm okay with being selfish most of the time, but I'm randomly going to be nice and then go back to me me me." Loving randomly rather than consistently is selfish. It is still a "me first" attitude. Pretty gross.

Consistent acts of kindness trump random acts of kindness. Random acts of kindness are the easy out. Consistent acts of kindness are tough because they require choosing to be selfless over selfish on an ongoing basis. If I've learned anything in life it's that the tougher route is almost always the better route and the one worth taking.

Today is Valentine's Day, but it is also the third annual Generosity Day, a day to put others ahead of ourselves (here's last year's post). And really, when it comes down to it, that's what love is all about. My hope is that today serves as a springboard for finding a way to help lighten the load for others in our daily lives. Not randomly, but purposefully and consistently.

Almost everyone I know had some variation of "be a better person" as a New Year's Resolution. The bottom line is that if we are growing as people, then we are becoming more generous. It is impossible to operate from a place of true joy or true love without growing in generosity. It is simply impossible. Joy and stinginess cannot coexist.

Seeing the world become a better place starts with becoming better people. Generosity and Valentine's Day go hand in hand. How can you share the love today, this week, next week, next month? How can we move from loving randomly to loving consistently?

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