Focusing On The Bigger Picture (An #Engage15 Recap)Friday, December 04, 2015
|The Engage Summits logo, designed by Trisha Hay, on the gala dance floor // Photo via @tanbailleres|
|Laser-engraved and etched custom acrylic name tags with mica chips by Two Paper Dolls // Photo via @thinksplendid|
One consistent pattern I’ve noticed with my clients is that the issue they come to me with is usually a symptom, not the root cause. This has been the case since day one. Over the past year and a half however, the root issue has largely been one of hazy priorities, lack of margin, or trying to do something that isn’t fully aligned with the bigger picture they set for themselves. This happens to everybody at one point or another, but it seems to be especially prevalent recently.
Because I study mindset and how that plays out practically, for this Engage I decided to speak on something that impacts our personal mindset, rather than talk about the mindset of brides and grooms or our employees. Ultimately, if we don’t get our own mindset right, then how our clients make decisions doesn’t matter.
|Cocktail napkin design by Gifts for the Good Life for the Alice in Wonderland welcome party // Photo via @goodlifegabsue|
Maybe it’s because I was already tuned into to this for my talk, but I noticed the topic of getting your head and priorities aligned with the bigger picture emerge as a theme in several of the presentations over the course of the three day event. Just a note for clarification: while Rebecca and Kathryn — the co-founders and hosts of Engage — give speakers guidance on their presentations, very rarely do they ask everyone to touch on a certain issue. The emergence of these unofficial themes is usually a good indicator of where the larger industry is at, and one of the reasons I love Engage so much — a theme always emerges, planned or not. (You can read about themes that emerged at Engage!11, Engage!12 at the Mandarin Oriental as well as Engage!12 at The Breakers, Engage!13, Engage!14 in Beaver Creek and Engage!14 in Grand Cayman.)
|Carley Roney, co-founder of XO Group // Photo via @carleyroney|
Event planner Mindy Weiss shared that she is taking on fewer events this coming year (half to be exact) so that she has more time to be physically present in her granddaughter’s life.
Other speakers talked about shifting their business models so that others on their team can take on roles they’ve traditionally done so that they can focus on other areas that are just as intellectually demanding but not as physically demanding.
All of the points above require setting aside ego and choosing what’s best according to your bigger picture. If you’re not on social media before your kids are off to school, people may think you’re not a hard worker. If you’re taking fewer events, people may think your business is struggling. If you’re still working at 100 miles an hour but not logging the same amount of air miles, people may think you’ve gotten sick, burnt out, or worse — have become lazy. These are all ludicrous, of course, and have nothing to do with reality, but they are still common concerns that the ego serves up.
|Peacock painting featured in the lobby of the Four Seasons // Photo via @thehoneymoonist|
|Luxury event planner Sarah Haywood // Photo via @SarahHaywoodWeddings|
|Rishi Patel, president of HMR Designs // photo via @riship18|
|Final night turndown gift. Everything that exists started as an idea. // Photo via @engagesummits|
Everyone has areas in their business and life where they struggle with ego — absolutely no one is perfect on this. Finding people who are willing to admit that and who are willing to do the work to keep their ego in check are the type of people I find most beneficial to be around. The Engage Summits are the only business events I've found that consistently offer that in both the speakers and attendees. Twice a year I get to see people who have become some of my closest friends and business sounding boards — some of whom are technically competitors. This group helps keeps me focused on both my personal bigger picture and the bigger picture of the industry and helps me create the margin I need to run a business and life I love.
Disney or not, Engage has a special magic. And that magic is always the people who attend.