Negotiating + Asking For What You WantWednesday, January 13, 2016
|"You don't get what you deserve. You get what you negotiate."— Dr. Chester Karass|
This is true for client work, product placement, speaking engagements, having something fixed around your home, or deciding who is going to tackle what on the to-do list. Business and life require negotiating — on a daily basis.
At times negotiating is more emotionally painful than it should be. You’ve faced your fears, asked for what you wanted, and then felt like you were punched in the gut by the other person’s shock that you would dare attempt to negotiate at all.
The only times I’ve tried to negotiate and have been labeled a bitch or a narcissist because I did so has been by other women, never by men.
Sometimes the other person won’t resort to profanity or obvious name-calling. Sometimes they’ll class it up with passive-aggressive language like, “Her ego has gotten out of control. What a shame” or, “She should be grateful we want to include her on this project at all” or, “Who does she think she is?”
This doesn't always happen, of course, but when it does it still takes me by surprise. Life is give and take. Some compromise is usually required by all sides. Wanting to negotiate is normal.
Don't expect people to fight fair. More importantly, don't allow that to make you cynical.
Know your worth.
Ask for what you want.
Have the difficult conversations.
It may be uncomfortable in the moment, but choosing to do what’s best for your business and family is a priority that shouldn’t fall second to someone else’s business or family.
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