Friday, September 19, 2014

On Adding Good Habits

Last year I made a New Year's resolution to have more than a cup of coffee for breakfast every morning. For the most part, my breakfasts over the past 21 months have been pretty simple: a bowl of flaxseed oatmeal. A hard-boiled egg and toast with jam. Cottage cheese with berries.

The benefits of adding this good thing to my life have been simple yet meaningful. I drink less coffee. I have more energy throughout the day. I think more clearly. And a vain favorite: by adding a meal I usually skipped I started losing weight almost immediately.

None of this should be shocking. All of the things that people have always said about breakfast are true. I just took the first dozen or so years of my adult life to finally make it a habit.

We usually know what we need to do to make major transformation happen, we just tend to ignore it in search of something flashier.

Monday, September 15, 2014

On Silencing Dissent

The people who are most loyal to you -- who will show up even when there's nothing in it for them, who are interested in your success and not just what you can do for them -- will be the ones who will be candid with you and tell you what you don't necessarily want to hear.

Don't write off or punish the people who have your best interest in mind simply because dissent hurts your ego. Bitterness on your part is a debilitating choice and hinders your growth.

Friday, September 5, 2014

But I Was Here First

The best entrepreneurs have the humility to recognize that they could one day be surpassed in terms of talent, knowledge, performance and quality of service or product.

The best entrepreneurs have the humility to be lifelong learners. They recognize that everyone knows something they don't.

The best entrepreneurs have the humility to admit that the "good old days" were filled with issues of their own and that change doesn't have to be a bad thing.

If you were here first, have the humility to use that fact to your advantage. Don't allow it to become a crutch.

Thursday, September 4, 2014

On the Pursuit of Goals

In order to accomplish our goals and dreams, we have to sometimes say no to good but not great things so that there are resources and margin to say yes to the right opportunities. This often means saying no to people who request our resources or time. This usually isn't easy, but it is necessary.

The flip side of this is that we have to allow others to say no to us as well. Too often, when an expectation goes unmet or we receive an answer that we don't want to hear, we read into things and assume ill intent on the part of others where none actually exists.

If you want to support other people in the pursuit of their own goals and dreams, give them room to say no to you without taking it personally.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

On Showing Up and Being Seen

If you are going to show up and be seen . . . especially if you've committed to creating, you're going to get your ass kicked. If courage is a value you hold, this is a consequence. You can't avoid it . . . .

I used to think that the best way to put your work out into the world was to make sure your critics aren't in the arena, but you have no control over the arena . . . The three seats that will always be taken when you walk into the arena, when you share your work with someone, are shame, scarcity and comparison. The fourth I'll leave up to you. -- BrenĂ© Brown