Tuesday, April 28, 2015

On Expectations of Capacity

True leaders ask hard questions. They don’t necessarily love tough conversations, but they don’t shy away from them. And they push you to be better, whether you believe in your capacity in the same way they do or not.

You may underestimate yourself, but a great leader won’t. How we lead needs to reflect this as well.

Monday, April 27, 2015


Your successful competitors often have more than you:

More money.
More employees.
More clients.
More press.

More darlings they refuse to kill.
More preconceived ideas.
More “this is just how this market is.”
More baggage and red tape.

Someone will always have more than you and there will always be others who consider you the successful competitor with more.

Sunday, April 26, 2015

Splendid Sundays Volume 179

A handful of splendid finds from around the worldwide web:

Women won more individual Pulitzer Prizes in journalism this year than in the last five.

Every high school in America is getting a free DVD of Selma. "Companion study guides will also be made available to the nation’s tens of thousands of high schools for any teachers who want to teach the movie in their classrooms." [TIME]

Facebook is cracking down on fake 'likes' in latest authenticity drive. "The social network has already removed bogus ‘likes’ from 200,000 pages since March." [RT News]

More than a stretch: yoga's health benefits may extend to the heart. "Performing a variety of yoga postures gently stretches and exercises muscles. This helps them become more sensitive to insulin, which is important for controlling blood sugar." [Harvard Health Publications]

Noteworthy from The Splendid Collective:

New 2015 wedding industry statistics and insights available from Splendid Insights:

2015 Global Wedding Market Report

2015 Luxury Wedding Market Report (budgets of $96,000 or greater, not including honeymoon)

2015 Premium Wedding Market Report (budgets of $31,000 - 95,000, not including honeymoon)

2015 United Kingdom Wedding Market Report

Friday, April 24, 2015

What True Optimism Looks Like

A true optimist doesn't sugarcoat reality or pretend everything is okay when it's not. Optimists aren't delusional. They don't insist that everyone mask their feelings or "grin and bear it."

True optimists aren't ashamed to grieve. They do not consider talking about the real, raw aspects of life to be a sign of weakness. Instead they know that hiding these things and sweeping them under the rug and pretending everything is ok when it's not is a sign of pessimism because pessimism is defined by fear.

Optimists know that people and places and things change and that there are lessons to be learned and that whatever is currently happening can be redeemed.

Looking on the bright side doesn't mean ignoring reality. It means insisting that what is right now is not the end. It means moving forward in a way that believes people are not defined by their circumstance.

The mantra to "put on a happy face" in the name of "positivity" is not optimism. Saying "this totally sucks right now but it's not forever and we're in this together" is.

True optimists know what real passion often looks like and that it's not always sis-boom-bah.

When it comes down to it, optimists are defined by hope. Hope is hard and it is messy. It sometimes doesn't feel all that great. It is "the long hard stupid way." It is the better way.

Originally published January 2013

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Creating Room To Grow

What's holding you back now may very well be something that was at one time incredibly profitable and successful for you.

It either needs to be revisited and fixed or cut all together so that new initiatives and ideas have room to take life. To grow, you must prune.

Originally published March 2013