Unblocking Your Creativity

Is it possible to be creative while holding a grudge or two? Of course.

Want your creativity to increase exponentially? Let those grudges go.

The most creative people — the people who have a new idea a minute — have cultivated the habit of seeing the world as it could be and, more importantly, the habit of seeing people as they could be. They believe in untapped potential, both for themselves and others, and believe that people have the capacity to change.

Holding a grudge keeps you from all this.

Grudges block gratitude because they are poison, never allowing a perspective of thankfulness to take root.

The act of holding a grudge requires taking the posture of moral superiority, never allowing you to truly collaborate — even with people you're not upset with.

People who hold grudges settle for dissolving relationships rather than doing the harder — but more rewarding — work of communication and conflict resolution.

Without the open-mindedness required to notice the silver lining in any situation, and without a community encouraging healthy habits, your creativity will always be stifled. You can still have enough creativity to get by, sure, but you will never have the degree of creativity that empowers you to get ahead and stay there.

Set healthy boundaries, but don't confuse a grudge with a boundary. Grudges may punish the other person to some degree, but they always — without fail — end up hurting you more.

Originally published June 2015

How To Become An Overnight Success

If you want to be an overnight success, you do the work day in and day out.

You do the work that everyone else gives up on.

You do the work that everyone else has mistakenly labeled a waste of time.

You do the work even when you're convinced that everyone on Instagram has figured out some foolproof system that they haven't clued you in on.

You do the work even when it is boring.

You do the work even when you don't feel like it and would rather curl up under a blanket on the couch with Nespresso and Netflix.

Then one day, out of nowhere, you will be labeled an overnight success. A door will open to a new hallway with new doors bearing new opportunities. You will still have to do the work to open these doors, but they will swing a little more freely.

Everyone will want to know how exactly you got so lucky. How you found the shortcut to that hallway with those doors.

And you will smile because you know the answer isn't one they want to hear.

The shortcut is doing the work.

Originally published January 2013