Getting a Fresh Start


A Monday morning sunrise at The Breakers in West Palm Beach, Florida. Photo with my iPhone.

A Monday morning sunrise at The Breakers in West Palm Beach, Florida. Photo with my iPhone.

Mondays get a bad rap. The propensity to hate Mondays is culturally engrained, but I've found that rejecting the TGIF concept that good can only begin when work has ended has been a far better way to go.

Several ago, I spoke at a conference with my friend and colleague, Mindy Weiss. During her presentation she mentioned that every Monday she gets up excited about her job, no matter how much she may have hated it over the weekend. Naturally, I loved her talk since Mondays are my favorite (as are sunrises, for many of the same reasons). It was a great reminder that Mondays can be magical, if you let them.

Here are some of my favorite things about Mondays:

1. Mondays are a clean slate and a fresh start.

Every week you get a chance to start fresh, try new ideas, dream bigger, do better work. Yes, you can technically do this each morning, but sometimes that pace can be a bit overwhelming. Mondays provide a nice, clean, manageable break in time.

2. Mondays are a great reminder of how lucky a person is to be doing work they love. 

If you hate them, they're a great reminder that it's not too late to start figuring out what it is you'd rather be doing and start working towards doing that.

3. The most successful people I know love Mondays.

Some of the kindest people I know also love Mondays. I don't believe that success and kindness have to be mutually exclusive.

If you hate Mondays, figure out a way to redesign your career and life – or even just your attitude and mindset – so that you love them. Starting each week with a sense of possibility is far better than starting off with a sense of dread.

Originally published September 2012

Celebrating Success

Yours and others’.

Assuming everyone has an ulterior motive is a toxic way to live.

Sure, some people do. Others, however, truly want to see what's best for you happen. They often want to contribute to your success out of a belief that a rising tide raises all ships.

If the people in your life seem to only get excited when others fail, if they're all too eager to gossip about someone any time something negative happens, if they intentionally feed discord based on assumptions, then give yourself some space.

Find and surround yourself with people who not only celebrate the success of others but who also help work to make it happen.

More importantly, be that person.

Originally published July 2014

When You Should Be Stubborn

And when you shouldn’t.

Photo by    Cameron Clark   , Wedding Design by    A Charleston Bride

Photo by Cameron Clark, Wedding Design by A Charleston Bride

Every business owner is, to an extent, stubborn. You probably wouldn't get very far in business if you weren't. Most new ideas are met with resistance, even the best ones.

When shopping carts were first invented, grocery stores had to hire models to push the carts around so customers would see them, stop being afraid of something different than their hand-held baskets, and start using them. The customers were being stubborn out of fear. The store owners were being stubborn out of a need to increase profits.

Some stubbornness comes from ego. I've sadly watched companies close their doors over the past few years because they refused to try anything new when it came to business. Their newer, younger competitors used social media so to them taking a class on it was a step down, an acknowledgement that someone else may have been doing something that worked better. Digging their heels in because of ego left them ill-prepared to weather the storm when the economy and consumer habits shifted and many suffered irreparable damage to their businesses.

Other stubbornness comes from real vision — a gut feeling that what you are working on is a big idea that has legs even when others don't see it. To me, this stubbornness is valid. It brings a willingness to be misunderstood for a while, a willingness to allow others to think you're just wasting your time. In the end, however, you have great results because you stuck it out.

The trick is being honest with yourself about where your stubbornness is coming from. Is it based on a dream that you believe can become reality or is it based on fear and ego?

Don't underestimate the power of your ego as it will kill your business faster than anything else. Conversely, never doubt your ability to justify. Labeling each idea as not worthy to be pursued and never being stubborn about your valid ideas will also kill your business by causing you to stagnate.

Originally published July 2011