Opportunities

Meant To Be

"If it’s supposed to happen, it will happen.”

This commonly shared piece of advice is alluring because it’s comforting. Que será, será and all that.

Unfortunately, it’s not true. 

Things in life don’t come together out of thin air. They require action, often on the part of several different people. Opportunities and ideas go un-acted on all the time because of fear or apathy. Worse, people then justify their inaction as noble because of a false interpretation of "letting go."

Pick up the phone.
Make the ask.
Be the first to say hello.
Attend the conference where you know no one.
Do the work even when you think no one is paying attention.

You’ll find a lot more happens when you don’t sit around waiting for something to happen.
 


Originally published February 2012

'No' Is A Complete Sentence

As a professional speaker, I am sometimes involved in conversations that go something like this:

"Hi, we’d like you to speak on creatives charging what they’re worth."
"Okay, my fee is $X."
"Oh, we’re not paying speakers."

Entrepreneurs in every creative field run into similar situations: they are asked to plan a destination wedding for publicity, or produce an event for charity, or to design and provide stationery goods for a conference. At times it makes sense to say yes to working for free

Other times, you need to say no. 

Where we get tripped up – and I see this across cultures – is that we (or the people asking) tend to view saying "no" as us being ungrateful for the opportunity. If we want to thrive, then we cannot allow ourselves to buy into the lie that it is never okay to say no.

  • Saying no does not make you ungrateful.
  • Saying no does not make you disloyal.
  • Saying no does not make you arrogant.
  • Saying no does not mean you are not generous.
  • Saying no does not mean you don't value community.
  • Saying no does not mean you don’t consider it an honor to be asked.
  • Saying no simply means the opportunity doesn’t fit with your priorities in this season

You can say no to press opportunities that don’t position your brand in a positive way (ex: reality television shows that make you look crazy and your clients bitchy).

You can say no to events that cause you to miss a family member’s birthday or milestone celebration.

You can say no to opportunities that don’t help you contribute financially to your family’s goals.

You can say no to projects that will suck the life out of yourself and your team.

"No" is a complete sentence. If you want your business to grow and be better, learn how to remove any shame either yourself or others try to attach to you saying no. 


Originally published March 2017

How (and When) To Work For Free Without Being Taken Advantage Of

Some people believe that you should never work for free. I disagree. 

I am okay with working for free, when it is in your best interest. I don't believe that "just say no" to working for free is always the best plan of action. Some amazing opportunities can come out of saying yes when a direct paycheck isn't involved.

Most of the people who will ask you to work for free — whether it involves taking a headshot for them, speaking at their event, or creating a flower arrangement for their morning TV guest spot — aren't trying to take advantage of you. More often than not, though, the scope of the project increases, the expected benefit never materializes, and you're left feeling like you did a lot of work for nothing more than a handwritten thank you note, if that. When deciding whether or not to do a project for free, I have a few guidelines that I often advise clients to take into consideration:

  1. Opportunities should align with your values and be some part of a trade or barter. Free is never actually free.
     
  2. Free can be strategic, so trust your gut, but ALWAYS do the math. The trade or barter should be dollar for dollar, or pretty close to it.
     
  3. You should have an agreement in writing, just as you would for paid work. This can be informal, but at the very least be written in an email.

Let's look at each of these:
 

1. Opportunities should align with your values and be some part of a trade or barter. Free is never really free.

In the United States, using volunteers for a for-profit business is illegal. I'm not speaking of interns, but friends and family who may help you out from time to time, who you don't pay to do so. The IRS doesn't ban this for altruistic reasons, it's all about money: if you're not paying volunteers, that's payroll tax, etc that they don't get to collect.

This means that if you're asked to provide services for free, you need to have some sort of trade/barter in place. Photographers often provide professional headshots for wedding planners with the trade agreement being that the planner sends the photographer a paying client in the next few months. (You can also just decide that the headshots are part of your marketing or networking budget and not expect anything in return, but that's another post altogether. We're going to focus on the trade aspect for this one.)

Saying yes to something, by definition, means saying no to something else. Getting clear on your values will help you say yes or no to opportunities from a place of JOMO (joy of missing out) rather than FOMO (fear of missing out). Too many people trade based on FOMO, while forgetting that nothing is really free.

No matter what else it costs, an opportunity always costs your time: time away from your family and soccer games and dinners together, time away from your community and planting deeper roots with the people who are physically there when it counts, time away from your desk when you could be working on revenue-generating projects.

There's not necessarily JOMO when missing a soccer game, but it's a little more palatable when you know the business that results from a trade will allow you to take your family on a fun vacation over Spring Break next year. The time you give up needs to be worth it to you, and what's worth it to you may look different than it does to someone else.
 

2. Free can be strategic, so trust your gut, but always do the math.

A good trade/barter deal will benefit both parties involved. The dollar amount of the trade you get in return should be roughly equal to the dollar amount of the product or services you're providing.

For example, if you're providing $30,000 in florals for a conference, can you reasonably expect to get $30,000 in business from the attendees who will see your work and then refer you? Or, let's say the price to attend the conference is $2,500. Will you be comped 12 conference registrations in order to match the $30,000 in costs you're providing for free? If not, is it worth it to you?

Legal aspects aside, anyone who's worked in a creative industry for more than twenty minutes will tell you that trading services or products based on an ego boost alone is not worth it. Giant corporations who sponsor events like the Olympics always run the numbers and forecast ROI before spending the money. You should, too.
 

3. You should have an agreement in writing, just as you would for paid work. 

There's a quote that I love and refer to often: "You don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate."  Scope creep on projects that are done for trade is all too common, and having even an informal agreement in writing (email counts) can help avoid bruised egos and hurt feelings later on.

At the very least, what you have in writing should include what each of you is getting out of the barter. Ideally, it will also have numbers: the amount you normally charge for styling a magazine photo shoot, and the amount in comped ad space the magazine is providing in return. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Avoid future business heartache (or heartburn) and write things down.
 

Doing things for free via a trade can be a strategic way to grow your business and leverage opportunities that may not have been open to you before. Make sure you're evaluating the requests you receive based on what they're actually worth to you, so that you can protect the future of your business and your professional relationships. Exposure alone doesn't pay the bills.
 


Originally published August 2016