Assuming everyone has an ulterior motive is a toxic way to live.
Sure, some people do. Others, however, truly want to see what's best for you happen. They often want to contribute to your success out of a belief that a rising tide raises all ships.
If the people in your life seem to only get excited when others fail, if they're all too eager to gossip about someone any time something negative happens, if they intentionally feed discord based on assumptions, then give yourself some space. Find and surround yourself with people who not only celebrate the success of others but who also help work to make it happen.
More importantly, be that person.
Originally published July 2014